You Broke Up How?

Nora

March 03, 2010 @ (Norway)

Tags: Confusing long distance

So, I lived in the USA for a year and got a boyfriend. We dated for approx. 8 months before I had to leave. We went in to a long distance realtionship which was hard but it worked. Now 8 months into it, and 4 moths before I come back, he decides to end it. I was heartbroken. Now after a week of silence he e-mails me and asks: did we use condoms when whe had sex"!? He also said "he was just thinking about it the other night." This all happened after he said he didn't have any feelings for me anymore, he even said he didn't want me to come back and now he's randomly e-mailing me! What is this supposed to mean? Does he regret breaking up, or just trying to make it harder for me to get over him?

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Krismas

February 28, 2010 @ (Asia Pacific)

Tags: didn't work out

I broke up with him just last week and it sucks. I can't say "officially" broke up because we didn't have the official talk. We have been dating (purely dating, no sleepovers etc) for nearly 10 months. Even though we've never discussed commitment, we've spent time with each others parents and traveled together, texted and talked to each other nearly everyday and meet at least once a week. Everything was progressing well. Last Monday, while we were out playing tennis, he told me he was going to spend the next weekend with some girl, to visit her hometown and check out the festivities there. I acted normal but became quiet after he told me that. He asked me later during dinner if I was upset, I said a bit but its ok. Later that night, he texted me goodnight and I replied with goodbye. I haven't heard from him since. I wonder if I will hear from him again. He was one of the kindest men I have ever met, and I felt safe with him, and I've never felt like that before. Guess at the time, I figured if after 10 months of dating he was going off like that with some girl, might as well just move on... :((

Danielle

February 24, 2010 @ (Oregon)

Tags: Cheating, jail

I found out my husband was cheating and I confronted him. When I asked her name he hesitated then said

Husband "Do you want me to be happy?"
Me " Just be a man and admit it."
Husband " I work with her, her name is xxxxx".
At that point I was so angry I reached out to slap his face, He locked me and pushed me down. I got up and tried to slap him again but he pushed me against the wall and held me there. I grabbed his neck and pushed him away. I then walked out of the room and told him to pack his bags and never come back. The he (are ready for it??) He CALLED THE POLICE AND SAIDHE HAD BEEN ABUSED! The police showed up and becasue he had nail marks on his neck they took me to jail. I spent the night in jail. Then he insisted the DA charge me with a felony which could result in 1 year in jail. For the next year and a half, I waited to go to trial while he used the threat of taking my kids away from me as a weapon.

I was found not guilty but he still insists I am an abuser and I lied.

Before you judge... He is 6ft 2 240lbs and I am 5ft 3 and 150 lbs. He has also punched my 17 yr old son (his stepson)and then called the police on him when he fought back.

Ccluv

February 22, 2010 @ (GA)

Tags: wat!

First off I am not a nutcase,yes I can write fuck and I didn't write it because the word because that's how I texted it too him and this was not the first time he ignored me like that for your info I wouldn't answer for the whole day and then call me the next day when I was sleep ok and I might be clingy but he actually told me he wants me to cling to him when I told him I would stop being clingy and you know what I am younger than him but so what he's about 7yrs older than me. Here's an update on that he called me and said that he was mad at me for sayin fuck you and he didn't want to speak to me and he said he doesn't want us to have a love/hate kind of breakup because he loves me and cares about me

Ccluv

February 21, 2010 @ (GA)

Tags: recent

My first love,boyfriend and everything(well not everything) broke up with over a text I sent him or so he says. We were together for about 6 months and I felt like everything was fine,we had an occasional disagreement and we broke up a couple of time for like a couple of hours but all in all I thought we were ok was and still am in love with him he told said he loved me and everything was good so I thought. I started noticing he would ignore my calls a lot and when I asked him why he would be like (the next day) he was busy and he didn't want to tell me that because he felt like it would hurt my feelings which I thought did't make any sense. So one day when he was ignoring my calls he finally answered and he sounded like he was just having a good time hanging out so I was mad and I asked "why your not answering me " he replied "I'm on the phone now right" so right there that made me mad. So because I was mad I hung up on him and then I felt bad for doing that so I tried to call him again and of course no answer so I started to text him and he texts back I'm doing homework so I text back (mind you I was mad) that he's a liar and f.u (you know what that spells. So the next day he doesn't answer me or call me all day and when he finally does he says I broke up with him because of what I text him and I'm like I was just mad and I'm sorry but he doesn't want to hear that. I think he was just trying to make an excuse to break up with me what do you think?

Charlie

February 21, 2010 @ (New Zealand)

Tags: sleazy, upsetting

She was my first love. We were lovers and best friends, it was amazing. We had our moments where there were spats and petty arguments, but we always got over them pretty quickly. About 6 months in we hit a rocky patch where we were constantly fighting and holding grudges longer than we were in spending time together so we called everything to a halt and "took a break" but after being apart for a week and a bit got back together. Things, although still great, were never the same. Our relationship lacked the passion and we were fading to bare friendship. By the end of our 7th month I tried to cling to the scraps of our relationship but she was slipping away and i was constantly having to call, txt and arrange when and where i'd see her. It got to the point where i knew she'd lost interest in me completely and i had nothing i could hold on to. After one of our last "arranged" dates i moved in to kiss her hello and she leaned away. I confronted her about her feelings and she turned around and said that she wanted our "infatuation" to slip into a comfy, close friendship. I agreed, i couldn't force her to feel differently about me. We avoided each other for a week when she started txting me again. I asked how she was, if she was seeing anyone and i got a few stinted replies our conversation dwindled and died. She then txted me a few hours later asking how i'd feel if she was to start seeing someone; i tried to stay nonchalant and told her it was her choice and to do what made her happy and, stupidly, asked if i'd know the person. She replied with one of our mutual acquaintance, of which, i felt a bit put out knowing a few trashy, sleazy stories about him but left it up to her. She then pushed the matter, asking how i'd take it if they were officially dating and i repeated my "whatever makes you happy" but then it struck me and i asked her how long they'd been dating. She replied that she'd hooked up with them days after we'd officially broken up. I was heartbroken. She continued to text me, then kept calling but i couldn't bring myself to answer. It's been a two years and i still refuse to fall into any relationships due to the scars shes inflicted. How long did her relationship with the sleaze last? 4 weeks.

Rachel

February 20, 2010 @ (Missouri)

Tags: Eric

We were together for 3 years and he treated me like a princess, i became a little too controlling, lost some of my confidence, and became a little to clingy, we didnt hang out with our friends like at all which i think was another problem...the only thing that i cant say i cant stand about him..is i feel like he didnt communicate very well to me the way he was feeling. Okay so me and my boyfriend almost broke up about 3 weeks before and he said he felt like he made it clear that I needed to change the way I was too controlling and that he wanted to hang out with his friends more. I guess things started to get bad again when I felt like the only reason he stayed with me was because I got really upset when he almost left me. He didnt ask to hang out with his friends or anything so I figured things were getting back to normal. Then I said something to him about things just not feeling the same and he just jumped all over this, which really upset me. Then a couple of days later he decided that we needed to talk so he sat me down and started to tell me that he just didnt want to be with me. Im not going to lie, I asked him for a chance to change and I told him that being with me for 3 years he couldn't find it in his heart to give it one more go, and he said he just didnt want to try anymore. He was really upset when he did it and even cried and kissed me good bye, he even said if we are meant to be together we will get back together. We didnt talk for 3 days and then we both ended up going to this party, when I was walking out of the bathroom he was walking in and i like tried to talk to him and I could tell he didnt want to talk to me and I ended up realizing he was drunk, we then went outside because i was dying to talk to him and he just kept saying he wanted to go and hang out with his friends. We ended up going back into the party and i got really upset because his friends pushed some girl onto him and she was grinding on him, i yelled at his friends and he ended up coming over and telling me i needed to leave and just stop he finally went outside to talk to me and ended up saying that he was texting another girl to try and get me to go away. I was trying to get his phone so that I could see his phone and if it was true I would leave him alone for good, then his friends came out and like pulled me off of him and we ended up going to my car and he just kept saying that he didnt want to be with me anymore and that he missed me but he was having fun with his friends, we were gonna talk the next day somewhere but he ended up texting me saying that there was no point and that he wasnt going to go. Then when i saw him at school because we have a class together we sort of talked but he still wouldnt budge on the fact that he didnt want to be with me anymore and he said now he knew that we werent meant to be together. Then we didnt talk for a week and it was a 4 day weekend and when i came back to school on tuesday, it had been a week since we had talked, he sat down next to me said hey and asked how my weekend was. I told him and didnt ask him how his was and he got sort of upset that i didnt ask, then he asked if i had been talking to other guys, and i said i was sort of texting someone and i didnt tell him who and he ended up grabbing my phone to see and got mad at who it was. Then that night we had to stay after school for like 3 or 4 hours for newspaper and we talked and things started to get flirty and like fun but he still said he didnt want to be with me but that he did miss me and still loved me. Things turned bad that night whenever we sort of texted becuase i think he felt like it was a mistake. Then the next day at school i thought that things were gonna be the same as the night before but he ended up being mean to me, and i just kept trying to talk to him (big mistake)and then that was it. later that day i found out he got so drunk a couple of nights before that he made out with this really nasty trashy girl. The next day i wouldnt even make eye contact with him and he kept looking at me but i refued to look at him. I found out that he was sort of embarassed for kissing that girl. That night he messaged me on facebook and said "rachel one question?" and i never answered...the next day at school i didnt look at him again and that was it. I found out that he had been talking about me to people and asking questions about me, like he asked this girl in our 4th hour what i was talking about to her. He got so jealous when he found out i was texting someone else, wanted to know if i liked anyone else, and asks people if i hate him... i dont understand, he told me to move on yet he is doing this? Its been 2 days since he tried to talk to me and hasnt tried to talk to me again...I am wondering if he will come back to me...or have i already ruined my chances...i dont know if i should keep doing what i am doing by completely ignoring him or what...

Steven

February 17, 2010 @ (Wyoming)

Tags: example1

So, me and my girl were together for about three years and were engaged. She always wanted to eat and then go back to my place ;). She always made me laugh, she was beautiful, and i thought she was my soul mate. We were so in love. But then one night ruined it all. I find out that my girl had sexy parties without me. One of my co-workers invited me to one for his bachelor party. I was not going to do anything. Looking is not bad right? Well, i went to it and i saw my girl there in her sexy work outfit. The outfit was a belt with leather boots, fish netting stockings, and black leather one piece outfit. Anyways.. she did not even notice me until she came over to give me a lap dance i think she was about to do. Her face was priceless when she saw me! I was so pissed at first but now i think it is hilarious. Now i know why she was so good! When she saw me she started crying and saying "I am so sorry!". I grabbed her by the arm and dragged her out to the car. We got into the hugest argument i was ever in. The bitch would not stop crying the whole time and did not even look at me once. That is when we went back to her house and i spent the night ;). I could not let the outfit go to waste! And then i left her in the morning when she was sleeping! Amen brother Amen!!!

Ethan

February 14, 2010 @ (Texas)

Tags: bitch

this story starts off about a year ago when i met this amazing girl. i had just gotten out of a really bad relationship and so when i met this girl i wasent all ready to jump right into another relationship. so for the first few months i never really gave too much thought toward actually falling in love with this girl.but as time went on the girl starterd to grow on me and before i knew it i was completley in love with her and would have done anything for her and i was pretty shure she felt the way. after we had been dating for about 8 months she got a job working at a gym as a receptionist which never botherd me untill one night while i was wating on her call to let me know she was off i got a text from my best freind in all caps saying u need to call me thinking nothing of it i called him only to find out he had seen this girl with some dude she worked with at a late night coffee shop sharing a little more than coffee. instantly everything went red and i called her one right after the other only to have her reject my calls. finaly when i did get ahold of her she told me she had been home all night. i was completly heart broke i told her i knew what she had been doing only for her to hang up on me to this day i havent talked to her and it drives me crazy because i never knew what went wrong.

Brittany

February 13, 2010 @ (SC)

Tags: drinking, texting

So here is our story. We met on a dating website. After meeting him and a few others, I realized he was absolutely normal and just looking for what I was looking for. Anyway, after a month or so, we began dating officially, and he always said stuff like "You're the best," "I definitely want this to be the real deal," etc. Buttttt, eventually after like 3 months, he confessed his previous break ups were screwing him up and he no longer wanted to be with me. When this happened, he was drunk. I went to his place to discuss this stuff that happened and what all he said to me to find out he was completely trashed and didn't know why he said that stuff to me. I told him that was his last chance. We were going strong so I moved in right after Christmas. It was absolutely amazing...until last night. He had his first bottle of Jim Beam in three weeks so he definitely got drunk. After three drinks, he was drunk (which isn't normal for him). His guy friend came over to play beer pong so I had my girl friend come over. She had to go home and then the crap started. He sent me a text (by the way, he was on drink 7 or 8 by now) that said "Idk if we should be together." I'm not much of a drinker. I don't like to lose control of myself. So, I took the text and went to the bedroom. He continued to drink. I told him to get in there and say stuff to me and not through texts. Of course he wouldn't so I told him that I love him and that I know I am good for him and his son. He said "Youre a great girl yeah but I can live without you sorry." Immediately, I packed a bag and left. I don't know why in the world he pulled this stuff, but I am going to move out. He apparently doesn't want to work this out.