You Broke Up How?

Yoon

May 28, 2020 @ (Earth)

Tags: Painful breakup

I broke up with my gf 3 days ago. More precisely got dumped by her. She never showed any discomfort nor any hatred, and on that morning out of the blue, she said she wanted to break up. It is still painful trying to get over her. I really loved her with passion. But, just after the breakup, I woke up. I started thinking rationally about her. Now, what looked like the perfect girl for me from the heaven looked like an evil. She's been talking crap about me to her friends. She never loved me from the start. She hates rejecting absolutely anything so she just felt bad rejecting to my confession. What I thought was love, was all an act. She just wanted a close friend. I still can't get the handle of the fact that the "I love you" and my first kiss with her was all fake. After the breakup she, without hesitation, blocked me from social media. She never loved me and never will. Moving on is hard but I'm starting to realise she actually has lots of faults, and wasn't as pretty as how it seemed. She never had a clear goal or plan for her future. Didn't try her best in school. Just wants to stay at home and rejected a great job offer just because she was lazy. She was gaining weight but didn't do anything about it. She lacks self confidence. Her relationship with her family was really bad. In fact I can't find any pros about her. Her appearance was actually average. I could say I was charmed by her appearance and personality at first but when I found out who she really was, it was shocking and felt betrayed. I hate myself who still miss her. It's still painful to break up with her even though I knew from the early days of the relationship, she might not be the girl for me. We still carried on thinking if I worked hard it'll work out. But it's still hard when someone so close to me is now gone.

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Jamie

November 09, 2009 @ (Washington)

Tags: wash

my breakup story... this was the worst breakup that I ever had. I got sick a few years back. i wasn't going to die or anything, but i was really bad off. you would think that the guy that wanted to MARRY you be there through your bad times. he broke up with me two days before I went in for surgery. I'm still bitter and this was a year ago. you wonder why some women hate men!

AL

October 21, 2012 @ (canada)

Tags: first heart break

my gf recently broke up with me and heres the story;
we were together for almost 2yrs and i thought she was the one. my family loves her and she gets along with my friends and vice-versa. she was my longest girlfriend and i let all of my guards down. we recently went on a trip too and i can remember a month before the trip she told me she doesnt feel the same way. but, me, blinded by love i ignored the warning and thought everything was ok and she was just having mood swings. as days, weeks went by she was back to normal. the day of the our 1 week trip comes, we were really happy and in love(atleast i was). so we get back from the trip(it was a great trip) and i thought everything was going fine. its september so we planned to spend the holidays together because my whole family is leaving the country for a month to spend the holidays over-seas. a few weeks after the trip its was september 28 to be exact, i was having a shitty day at work and looking forward to seeing and talking to her. that night, she just wanted to end our relationship, my heart sank while i asked her why and her reasons were: she's still young, she wants to figure herself out, she wants to experience life and she needs her own space. i talked her out of breaking up with me but i would give her a month break to have her space and to do her own thing. i tried to let her do her own thing but i failed, i still called, texted and saw her. that went on for a couple of weeks. she would still say i love you to me but whenever i was with her it didnt feel right anymore i mean i love her but i could just tell that she's fallen out of love with me. i was too stupid to be honest to myself and face that there was no point of me still trying, giving my absolute best to make things work out and make her fall in love again. but she would say the littlest things that would give me the biggest hope. so there i was again, lying to myself, prolonging my own agony, torturing myself. until a fews ago, i faced my fear. we were in her place we watched a movie after the movie we had a serious talk about our relationship. she was still trying to fall back in love with me but she also knew that there was really nothing there. so i told her if theres nothing there anymore dont bother. she wants to stay friends but that would be impossible for me. she loves me but not inlove with me. so i walked out of her house crying my eyes out my face was hurting alot for holding the tears for so long, carrying the bag of chips and dip i bought for the movie(she didnt want them). that night was the night i felt so bad for myself. only a few people know that we're broken up even our FB relationship status says we are still in the relationship. everyone thinks we were perfect for each other. i still need to have my question answered "why/how did she fall out of love?". it gets tougher everyday because i still have that little hope. im trying to be strong and busy to get over my first heart break. its so hard for me to tell people what im really feeling inside. my friends see me as a strong man yet i feel like a little kid inside hoping to be loved. im doing the best i can not to contact her. im trying to get back on my feet and just let things be. i dont know if she'll miss me and come back but i best not expect anything.

for other guys out there: growing up we were always taught to be tough, strong and not to show any kind of weakness. while, girls are taught the opposite they show emotions, how they feel and all girls out there expects to have their heart broken by a guy one day. us guys would never expect that. so when we guys get our hearts broken it would be unexpectedly fcked up for us.

atleast thats how i see why im having a difficult time coping with this.

well i got some out of my chest! thanks for reading

Vi

October 23, 2019 @ (Florida)

Tags: bad breakup

On March 28 of my senior year, a day after my year and 7 months anniversary, my boyfriend had broken up with me. It was sudden and unexpected. We were fighting at the time about something stupid and I had apologized and he never did. I didn't go to school the day after because I was sick. Heartbreak. I loved this man and the reasons he gave for leaving was horrible. He told me I was a bitch, insensitive, and that he hadn't loved me for the last 2 months and he was only with me so I was happy. Although he already planned to break up with me the day after school ended. The next week comes and I found out he already had a new girlfriend. Realization set in. He was cheating. A few weeks later rumors about me were being spread, he was throwing shade at me. I snapped. I told him that if he wanted to be "done" with the relationship like he said then he needed to quit being a petty asshole and grow up. It was over, he moved on and I was on my way with a good life. He didn't stop, but karma was a bitch. His new girlfriend broke up with him after she talked to me and realized that everything he told her about me was a lie.

There was a lesson to be learned. If you say you are done with a relationship then don't make things harder for the other person. Move on. If you hate them, that's fine. Don't go and make their life miserable because you were.

Karma is a bitch.

Talkingator

October 24, 2011 @ (California)

Tags: 1

I met the love of my life 6 years ago, the most perfect guy. We both had gone through a break up so we used to talk everyday, eventually we started dating. We had 6 years of the most perfect relationship, never fought only grew into mature people together. We were always there for each other, even spent a majority of our relationship on two different continents. We come from two different cultures and I guess that was a difference which was minor to us because a big issue for his family. His parents esp his mom wanted me to change in many ways I couldn't and so she pretty much emotionally blackmailed him into marrying a very traditional girl. I'm so heart broken i'm not mad at him because I know first hand how controlling and abusive his mother is. I feel sad for him and I feel sad that two people who are so perfect for each other who brought out the best in each other can't be togeher. I know I have a long road ahead of me, but all i want is just to see him again to be in his arms. I miss the comfort of being in a relationship. I miss my best friend. May he be happy always.

Paul Bishop

August 12, 2024 @ (United Kingdom)

Tags: Family break up

I always had a thing for Emma, we were 15 years different in age but there was something that I found so attractive.. and her eyes were so beautiful.
After 15 years of marriage, ups and downs, 2 beautiful children we were just drifting through life. Together but alone if you understand that. We lost that thing.
She told me to fight and I did, I made sure I provided everything and above to let her have more time with the children, more money to make sure they didn't go without and work consumed me.. because I thought that was fixing things.
It didn't.. I saw her draw the children in and I felt on the outside. I worked harder to bring more of the wrong thing.
She was away and I could sense she had changed.. no, she had decided. It had ended. She said we were done.
I had chances.. anyone in the same situation please don't do what you think is right, communicate. Something I'm not too good at. If that is the same for you get help early.

Lola

October 08, 2010 @ (KY)

Tags: ex, boyfriend

Well it all started about two years ago when I met Connor. He was shy and sweet and knew how to make me laugh. We had a lot of things in common but I guess the one thing we didn't have in common would be the downfall of our relationship.
To keep things simple he had money,he was rich, well his family was rich. He was just in highschool so he didn't have any money of his own. He had the easy life.He stayed home and played his xbox and never had to lift a finger. Me on the other hand, I had to work and save up my money to just to go on dates. I never thought any of that mattered to him. Cause well its just money it has no sentimental value in a loving relationship. I was wrong. Towward the end of the relationship he started to leave me out of things and I finally confronted him about it.
He went out to eat with some of his "rich" friends and didn't invite me and his excuse was "I didn't think you would like a fancy restraunt like that" So to sum it all up one day we got in an argument over something stupid but he took it wat to personal and rolled off something like "at least my family HAS money!" well that was the final straw. I slapped him across the face,kicked him in the crotch and said "eff you and your money! We are done!"

Hurt

November 14, 2014 @ (Houston)

Tags: #confused #confused

we never really dated i guess you could say. he said we did but ever exactly made it official. i like him a lot to the point where i get so jealous when hes around another girl. No im not a jealous freak but i could at least have some respect when i tell him that i don't like that. anyways, not the xcase. We never had a freind ship to start with but it never was a ok your cute i like you no we talked i fell. and they did warn m,e he was a player. but did i happen to listen? nope, i ignored it and as he told me "they just cant stand to see us together." Well turns out he had a girl he was always kissing holding hands and hugging and callin her beautiful and sexy and babe and baby. (we known each other for a year or so vbut never really kissed just held hands and a hug and flirt) i didnt find this pout till today anyways planning to end this "relationship" monday. itz sunday btw so goodbye for now at leasty

Sathvik

November 03, 2025 @ (Bangalore)

Tags: Bad break up

I was in a relationship for 3 years where i enjoyed every moment of my relationship, the time we spent together , the fights for no reason , her cuteness, her madness , her innocence i loved everything abt her from past 5 months our relationship was not going well because i didn't take her out on valentine's day due my health i mean i promised her i would take her out but couldn't i mean i understand tht she was excited abt tht i couldn't hlp it i was in bad shape later to make it up i took her to very fancy restaurant tn she said she needed break from oour relationship she said she need some time for her self and she will come back wn she is ready i thought it was a small disturbance she will come back wn she is ready i have waited for 6 months i mean we were talking but nothing more tn tht i always tried to get back to her she said she needed time so i never forced her to come back bust few days back she calledme said she wanted talk abt something important i thought she ready now i got excited and got ready and went to meet her with few flowers but she said it is not working out lets break up it felt like i don't know how to describe it like someone is squeezing me in high pressure container i tried to convince her but she was not ready to listen so even i agreed to break up i didn't wanted to force the love which i didn't find at tht moment

Joe

October 14, 2009 @ (California)

Tags: lobotomy girl

I was dating this girl who was pretty cute, and after a couple dates we were at her place making out on the floor , (no furniture) as she sitting on my waist she leans over and says, "there's something i have to tell you, I have herpes." this is after she told me that she had a metal plate in her head from the surgery where they took out a good chunk of her frontal lobe because she partied so hard for two years, taking so much e and everything else she killed a part of her brain. I couldn't run out of there fast enough.