Anynomous's Breakup Story in great britain

Anynomous

November 21, 2010 @ (great britain)

Ihave dated someone for 9 months. He proposed me and even asked my family for permission to get married...
Then it wasnt going anywhere, I wanted to talk about the future, he didnt, was always too tired or any other excuses... Then things became very violent, from his side and mine. We both have bad temper, but we both got worse. I asked him to go and talk to someone, somewhere, so we could sort ourselves out. I do love him... but then he's got a depression, I think it's a lot worse than he wants to admit... and he promised me he was gonna stop smoking marihuana, which turns him into a different person (in a bad way) and makes him very angry and irritable and I think has to do with his depression too... so, he smoked again, inspite of the fact he's on anti-depresants and we argued because of that and his mood swings, his behaviour and all that...... he kicked me out the house, i cried my eyes out. I am in a foreign country with no friends or relatives, so you figure out the rest of the story. I am destroyed, confused, crushed, feeling guilty, lonely and cold. Thinking, I could have done better than getting angry... but then we've been together for 9 months and always argued about his smoking habit..... relations are problematic enough to be adding a drug addition weight on top of all... I even bought tickets to leave the country for Christmas with him.......he doesnt realise how much smoking his thing makes us argue and puts pressure on us....... then he thinks I am yelling because I am a bitch with no other reason but nagging; and I cant put up with the fact that it's always his house and he can kick me out of it when he feels like it; that i always gotta give in if I want things to go smooth, otherwise, we argue....
I wish I had never met him, so I wouldnt be in this position now. I'm 30 and feel terribly sad and lonely, with no friends, family or place to go. I can't talk to anyone, cuz I dont have friends in here really, so I am writing this here, so I can get it out of my chest... I love him so much but I dont even think he realises how much it takes for someone to have the courage to come after the one you love in a foreign land... next time, I'll be more selfish and think more about me...
I feel left alone, sad, disappointed, heartbroken!!!!!!!!!! I thought he was the 1 and I adore him. It just that I dont know what else to do!!!! It's like a battle I cant never win and if he doesnt want to help himself and us, then there's no point in me trying to get this right... but it hurts so much!!! I was gonna spend the rest of my life with him!!! I even thought I could jump out of a building and end this!!!! .... I am just so sad...
Any advice???

Comment on this breakup

Sarah

November 24, 2010

Dear Battered Bruised and Beaten- I know how it feels to be depressed and betrayed. I know what its like to be in a 9 month relationship and it ending. Mine was way different but i still know that 9 months is enough time to fall in love and be happy and want to spend the rest of your time with someone. It hurts SO BAD when the love turns into pain and fighting. I could never understand why someone could love another so much and hurt them so bad. You need to go back home and leave him. It hurts thinking about moving on but you NEED to give yourself time to get over him. Pursue other men but try as hard as you can to not get serious you just need (not negatively) a rebound. Someone to take your mind off of your ex and make you happy. That helped me and now i don't think about him or miss him. I miss the love and the fact that i once was in love with someone and part of their every day and at one point we were the only thing on each others minds but you need to be strong and kinda tough on yourself and make yourself get over it. You will be okay you will be loved you need to wait for someone amazing to come alone and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. <3xoxo -S

Davina

November 23, 2010

Hi- I really feel for you. I know what it's like to be lonely and in a strange country and I also know what it is to have your heart broken. I can't imagine having to cope with both at once. Please don't feel too desperate as life can change from being sad to happy more quickly than you might think. But it is hard to realise this when you are feeling so down. You deserve to be treated so much better than this. If you need a friend or someone to talk to please email me on: Please don't feel strange about contacting a stranger, we all have to help out each other in this crazy world! X

yqnlc

November 22, 2010

Hey girlie, I am sorry this happened to you. I am sorry that he is such an ass. I am sorry that he is selfish and wasted so much of your time. I wish I can tell you that things will get better, that you will get over him in no time. Instead, I'll offer you my friendship and my ear. I've been hurt very deeply many times before, but managed to get through it. It helps to have someone to talk to, someone to listen when you sort out your feelings and thoughts. It's ok to cry when you feel hurt. But try not to cry too much. It hurts your eyes after awhile. Anyways, if you are interested, reply to this comment and i'll give you my email. Hope you can get through this quickly.