Martha

October 17, 2010 @ (California)

Tags: jealousy, ossessive, cheating, moving on, fake

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I dated my ex for 13 months and it's been 2 months since the breakup, but I still feel lke crying every now and then. He told me that if I ever broke up w/ him he'd never date,marry, or have kids with anyone else because he'd love me forever and would nver break up with me. What bullshit. I broke it off, and it seems like it's taking a toll on me and not so much on him.Just a few minutes ago I accidently went to my friend's page, who's also his friend because of me, and saw a post by him and,consequently, his new profile pic.It's indeed pathetic that he's probably trying to make me jealous by posting some pic of him and a girl,but it was enough to make me feel even worse. How do I move on?He told me he's started smoking,so I kno it was hard for him too, but i think it's even harder for me because he always lied to me and probably cheated on me, who knows. He gave out his number to his girl-friend on facebook and I found this out b/c I had his account info, but I thought he'd have the decency to tell me instead of having me find out like that.I wouldn't've been mad at him for that if he hadn't lied and said he didn't wanna talk to any girls but me. Not to mention he admit he took me for granted the first 10 months of the relationship, chose his friends and work over me, etc. I wanna unlove him so bad and meet someone better and worthy of my love.It hurts me because he was my first love and the first person I lost my v to, and I've heard that you can never get over your first love. I hope that's not true.My best friend said she always hated him and sensed his fakeness from the start,and now I regret dating him and losing it to him. I may have cheated on him twice, but I never felt so guilty because he treated me so bad. He started trying to control how I dress and what I do.He was so jealous and possessive,but deep down I knew he was just using me for sex and cus he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. It's just so hard to move on after knowing his family and reminscing about all the good times, any advice for me?

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m

February 20, 2011

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thanks adriane, i posted this a very long time ago lol , and now i can happily say i'm over it (:

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Adriane

February 17, 2011

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I'm living proof it's possible to get over your first love even if he is the one you lost your virginity to. I live with the image of mine everyday, as I had his son. My pregnancy was actually the reason for our split. My boy is almost 20 now and the spitting image of his father, right down to the adorable slightly crooked front tooth. So cheer up on that front, sweetie.. As for your relationship in general, if you followed through with the urge to cheat on him it's probably best that it's over anyway as it is damned near impossible to have a loving and healthy relationship without trust. So just keep your head up, put one foot in front of the other and you will find the pain of it easier to bear with every step. Love takes a long time to grow, it takes even longer for it to die. but eventually it does...

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Martha

October 26, 2010

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Yes I did tell him everything..he forgave me, or so I think he did. I told him if I was him i'd dump me but he sed he never would. I didnt believe him completely but I hoped it was true. And it was, but he lied to me afterwards. *Linda i see why u love him,but u deserve to be loved back, and not jus sometimes.

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L

October 26, 2010

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People act like they don't cheat on this site my gosh. How unrealistic is that? I think that what they're doing is just making you feel bad for admitting it. Other people won't admit it because they don't want to look bad so I believe you're story since you weren't afraid to look bad. That's honesty. That's good quality in a person. I would know since my ex lied to me for about a year. He lied to me so much that when he told me he loved me, looked me in the eyes, and held me tightly, I couldn't believe it because that's how good of a liar he was. I think the reason why I don't want to get over him is because I know that no one's is going to love him like I did. No one knows him like I do. I lived with him for a year. I saw him every morning, every night, and at times even worked with him. Not only that but most of the boyfriends that I had couldn't handle me for more than 3 months LOL and he was able to handle me for a year? LIVING WITH ME! that's a first. Anyway, I know almost everything about him. How he likes to take all the marshmallows out from Lucky Charms and put the cereal back and just put the marshmallows in a bowl and eat it like that. He doesn't like eating fish because of a childhood memory that traumatized him. And how he puts sugar in like...every little thing he eats. That boy loves sweets.

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Linda

October 26, 2010

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People act like they don't cheat on this site >__<. That boy loves sweets.

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Linda

October 26, 2010

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~gasps~ I wrote more than that!! Lol I guess I wrote too much. Oh well...Yeah if it doesn't make sense it's because they took some of the stuff I wrote out. Sorry about that.

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Linda

October 26, 2010

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You're welcome and hey I know you cheated on your boyfriend twice but it actually depends on what you did and if you told him. People act like they don't cheat on this site >__<. That boy loves sweets. But anywho, the same things goes for him. He knows stuff about me just like I know stuff about him. People say it's because I just got comfortable with him, but that's not even it though. I really do love him because he's done more for me than anyone has ever done for me. After my dad died I hadn't really been happy and he died when I was 8. My ex was the one who "touched" being close to making me as happy as my dad did. I felt...I don't know...why am I talking to people online trying to make them understand? To them it's probably just another relationship that didn't work out. It will or will not depending on the situation and how the couple feel for each other but to me it's more than just a relationship or having a boyfriend. He was like...my partner in life. You know how certain stuff doesn't work without the other? Like how the plants don't grow without the sun or Food and water or good without bad. He was the yin to my yang. He was more than just a boyfriend to me.

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Martha

October 25, 2010

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I don't go on his stuff anymore... and no I wouldn't tell her or him to do that LOL i'd jus tell em to change their account info. That's easier.

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Chico Rush

October 25, 2010

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when i read your post i got that you thought he was acting like a jerk.then again cheating on someone is pretty jerky behaviour and you admit to doing that twice.as to us bein mean i like to think of it as adding a little perspective since we only got her side of the story.by thet way if one of your friend's ex-boyfriends was going through her personal accounts(f.b. m.s. email..ect)wouldn't you encourage her to contact the authorities?hell in some jurisdictions that might be enough for an arrest and a restraining order.

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Martha

October 25, 2010

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Thanks for your input Linda. Yeah, he was a jerk.. I don't think that's the part people are getting here lol. I get why u dont wanna get over him, even tho u should.

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