John L.

July 25, 2010 @ (Orlando)

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I have posted my story and it was the first time I ever had something like this happen.

My question after reading other peoples stories is this.

While everyone says move on thats all you can do. Others try to take revenge but my question is why?

Why do people of today treat people with such little respect. Sex is seen as nothing more than a social event when that is never what it was designed for. It was meant for marriage.

Look at all the media around you (sex sells) look at we as a people and what we are becoming. People are so selfish that they forget that the one thing you do is put the other individual above yourselves.

We are all here because the person we thought we could trust, believe in, give our lives to, want to be with for the rest of our lives, etc. Left or broke us. How many of us have done this to others. Yes many times it's better that we split (abusive or harmful) but at the same time its become normal to break people's hearts and souls and in some cases we still don't know why the other did it.

I am challenging all of you since you have gone through a breakup to stop and think. Don't just jump into bed. Look at the person in the face and ask is this the woman or man I can spend my life with. Waking up to their face every morning and never getting tired of it.

Don't let your emotions run your life. Stop the cycle that the world has said is normal. Stop having sex just because it feels good. Or you are lonely. Grow up and set an example for others to follow.

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katt

December 30, 2010

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Okkk, sex isnt the root to all evil here!! PPL are!!! If u just STOPPED putting ur all into a relationship that ur not gaining from n stop falling "in love" after a few mths, u wouldnt be in the situation or so broken hearted!!! My advice is take ur next relationship "day by day"...have fun, enjoy each others company, laugh, TALK, get to know 1 another, if u happen to have sex, have fun w it!! ENJOY it!! Dont ponder on it!! N see where it takes u...u may both be compatible n fall in love n live happily ever after...orrrr u may realize it was fun but not what u were looking for...but many ppl would stop getting hurt if they realized: Don't make anyone a Priority when ur just their Option...

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Kris

December 05, 2010

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You are right. I feel the same way. How can a women lay in bed with you one night,then then next she is out the door and not looking back after years of being together. After all the promises, all the good times, all the bad times... Everything...... Its like you just wasted almost 2 years of your life... When I actually give my heart... I GIVE IT! Im 26yrs old and been in love only 3 times. I have had many flings and women in that time, but only 3 girls made me actually FEEL! I am going thew a breakup now, its been a little over a month, and I have been in tears, upset, angry and mad, hateful, sorry, sad... You name it. My only comfort is knowing that I tried... I was told the same things that many other men in here were told by there loves. So the more I read others stories and relate to my own, I do realize that I made alot of mistakes and lost her attraction.. The only thing I can do now is better myself and make myself happy on my own. Even tho day to day I could cry over the loss of her. My friend, take comfort knowing that you are not alone here.

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sped

August 15, 2010

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John: pretty well in touch with your inner pussy, you big douchebag. What brand of tampon do you prefer?

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Ann

August 02, 2010

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Most chatrooms are pretty X-rated. Not the best location to find intelligent conversation.

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John L.

August 02, 2010

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Like I said. sex is seen as nothing more than a social event. I am in college and people talk about it as if they just went and bought a candy bar. I has no meaning to anyone anymore. It is the one time that two people can be closer than anyone but it has become nothing but a temporary boost. I'm getting pissed. People say well its the world and thats just how it is. That is a big load of horsecrap. It's just an excuse to say I want to do the things when I want to do them, how I want to do them, and whenever I want to do them. But hey thats what is considered the norm so go ahead screw around till your brains fall out. Its all for fun right. Grow up geez

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Ansi Jose

August 02, 2010

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i'm really disappointed at the way people take their lives. yesterday i happened to get into a chat room. i was quite bored and thought i'll get some company. while there, a guy asked me if he could have some naughty talk with me. i never had heard of such a thing and said yes. and what he said what something i couldn't even imagine. he said only two sentences after which i logged out of that hell, but one presentable sentence was " r alone in the room and what r u wearing inside?" i felt so bad at the way people consider each other. in that chat room most of the people were having similar conversations. i feel that 99% of men and women who are married or are in relationship will be enjoying this kind of conversations with strangers. i really don't understand why such a thing is so important in their lives. people r trying to have sex through chatting!!! and that also with someone they don't even know!!! i just want to know if it is normal for people to act like this and if i'm the one who feels bad because i'm abnormal.

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Ann

July 28, 2010

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There are obvious consequences to having sex casually, especially if the person your sleeping with believes that the casual sex your having implies a commited relationship- of course, there are a multitude of other reasons why it's not a good idea. Your post disturbed me a little though- I understand that it was well intended but the comment "Put the other invidual above yourself" was the reason many of us were so hurt in the end. Especially for those of us whose "other" happened to be a toxic psychopath (like in my case). It is one thing to be a good person, but you absolutely can't have a healthy relationship if your only in a relationship to meet another persons needs, not examining your own. Relationships are supposed to be fufilling for both parties, not for one person who takes and takes without ever giving back. You challenge everyone to be a better person because most of us know how it feels to be used. I agree with that. I think the second half of that challenge should be for the people on this site to really discover what they need in a relationship first, examine that, and apply those (realistic and flexible) expectations towards the next person we commit ourselves to.

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John L

July 28, 2010

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I wasn't directing it towards anyone specific. It was for everyone who has read this and just saying it as a general challenge to make people realize that there is so much more to life than sex but also to treat it with respect not as a social event that you do on your first date. It was just to get people to think

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Ansi Jose

July 28, 2010

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i can understand the grief and frustration u felt when u were cheated in a relationship. but i have something to say. i don't have the right to talk about others, but as far as i'm concerned, i just didn't jump into the bed. i did such a thing after i was convinced that this was the man with whom i'm going to spend the rest of my life. and i did everything possible so that i could to stay in that relationship. i heard all the bad words he called me, i suffered all the insults that his father did to me. because i thought once the marriage is over we may be able to start things in a new way. but after suffering the same thing for two years, i realized that it won't work. so i just stopped it. but that doesn't mean that i'm going to find someone else who is better than him. because for me he is still the best in the world. i'm not in a relationship with him for now, but that doesn't mean that i don't love him. i still love him and i always will. it was a big shock to me to know that he started getting into relationships with girls ever since he was 13 and once i started to count the number of relationships he had before me. i went up to 20 and then i just stopped because i can't think more about it. but for me, he was the first in my life and i don't want to make someone else the second in my life.

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Ann

July 26, 2010

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I agree that people should be more considerate of other people but I think you are putting too much emphasis on sex. Sex doesn't take away from a relationship but dating someone who is only in a relationship for sex does. Your fatal mistake, as was mine and many others, is that we dated someone who didn't really want a relationship with us to begin with. As far as our responsibilites go, we can try to be the best people we can be, avoid putting all of our eggs in one basket until we actually know a person and be aware that being human means that were going to get hurt every once in a while- suck it up, take it as a learning experience and move on.

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