John L.'s Breakup Story in Orlando - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

John L.

July 20, 2010 @ (Orlando)

I was with a girl for 7.5 months. When we first met she told me that she was going to try and get back together with her ex.8 years earlier I had begged God to show me the girl I was to marry. I had seen this girl and her dad for 8 years in my dreams and had been looking every day. 2 days before my 23 b-day,I took her out to dinner and it was my first date.We ended up hanging out more and more. FOund out later she was with a guy I knew and was having sex. I am a true Christian and wanted to show her that sex wasn't how you loved someone it was just being with the that mattered most. Her ex had messed up her head. I got drunk for the first time forher and apparently I woke up next morning with no clothes on. I lost my virginity.To me it was the most sacred thing I wanted to give my wife to say this is all that I am and I am giving it to you. We ended up doing it a lot and I thought she would stay with me. She was talking with her ex the whole time and I hated that but was trying to show I cared. He came back 4 two weeks and she had sex with him. I had just given her a 200 dollar pair of earrings saying the night before don't forget about me. She came back and we were together for a few months then she started working at a place full of guys then the there was no contact with her. I was like what the crap. She didnt tell me anything. I had nightmares of me being in the room while she was having sex with a guy I had never seen. Later found out she was seeing a guy from work. And that she had finally broken up with her ex.
I said is there any way that we could start over since she now had a clear head. No. She never once loved me or had feelings for me. They were all transferred from her ex to me. Sorry.
In the end I gave my virginity so she wouldn't go to another guy who would use her for sex,gave her my heart, mind, body and soul. I waited 8 years for this girl and she took everything and said it meant nothing. Now I am afraid to even ask a girl out because I believed in her. One time after sex she was like what is your favorite part. aka on her body. I pointed to her heart. I never wanted sex. I kept telling her it was just holding her hand, being in her arms, and looking into her eyes that made me forget everything. Now I fear she is destroying her future. All I can do is pray

Comment on this breakup

Ansi Jose

July 22, 2010

It is sad that such a thing happened. But there are good women on this earth. I lost my virginity to please my boyfriend the same way you did. But it was the 12th or 13th of the relationships he had. I just wasted my self esteem on him. That didn't prevent him from going with other women after that. But I still believe that good men are still there. Evil can be on both genders. It is not the gender, it is the soul which gets corrupted. Believe in God and he will give you the best.

Leah

July 20, 2010

Being a good, honest person isn't a guarantee that the person you love will not abuse you. I'm not a Christian but I consider myself a good, honest person. I ended up with a man who emotionally abused me for two and a half years, destroyed my self esteem and as a result I ended up losing sight of things that were really important to me. Just know that you may regret some things that happened as a result of this relationship but it is so easy to get swept away from you personal foundations when you're in a toxic relationship. Don't beat yourself up for that. I wrote a list of things I wanted in a person and that helped direct me to the loving, fufilling relationship I'm in now. It might help give you some clarity to do that for yourself. Don't worry about the ex, as a Christian, you can pray and hope for the best but if she is making to a choice to use and hurt people try to stay away from the that and see it for what it is. You sound like a nice guy and believe me, there are women out there looking for someone like you.

john L.

July 20, 2010

When I first met her, she seemed like a very nice Christian girl and she went with me to church. She even said I was the nicest guy she had ever met and that I had never done anything wrong. I asked her once if she could go one place where would she want to go. She said Paris, I made her a picture book with a story that she could fill in the gaps of who the man was that she was with. It was going to be me bec. my family is going there this spring break. I made her promises and I literally kept every single one. For what good is a man who cant keep his word. I never once lied to her either

Leah

July 20, 2010

Not all women are like that. You need to find a woman that values what you value- looking in a church of your faith might be an excellent place to start.