Alexandra's Breakup Story in Calgary - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Alexandra

April 13, 2010 @ (Calgary)

So I am 21 now and I have known this guy since i was 15.. he was my first love... we dated and lived together for 2 years when my dad left and then he cheated on me with my friend... after 2 weeks I moved to the states and went to college. After being there for about a year i wanted to come back....
We ended up getting back together... even though I felt I shouldnt i loved him... all I could think about was him...
This time it seemed good... I moved back in with him... we were happy so I thought... he told me if he ever felt unhappy we would break things off...he said he would never do that to me again... that he could never hurt me cause he loved me so much... that I saved his life

So i go on a trip to Toronto for 10 days and the day after I left he was already out at the bar with some girl he used to say he hated and that she was a slut.... a couple mroe days in to my trip I found out he was sleeping with her that she thought he was her bf... he told her all the things he told me.. that they would go on trips together and travel....

When i got home i went there to get my stuff... he was crying said he wasnt going to be with her anymore... that he knew he messed up and it would be healthier if we were apart... he needed to find himself.

So I call the other night cause I left some things there and she picks up... says he loves her now that he doesnt love me and she hung up on me.

What kind of guy can move on so fast after 6 years? how could he let her hurt me? and of course LIE LIE LIE he says he wants to be alone but now hes with this girl? He says that he is only with her to get in her pants cause she looks like a porn star and i dont... and that he wants to marry me in 2 years.

WHAT kind of bullshit is that? I am so heartbroken and depressed when I know I deserve better... I just dont know how to stop being sad...

Comment on this breakup

yolanda

April 18, 2010

omg. hun, move on. hes a complete idiot. he really doesnt love you. thats it. its harsh but he doesnt. no matter what he says he doesnt. if he did, he would be with you. point final. im sure u can find someone BETTER. this guy is a moron. show him what a strong woman you are. and that HE lost. karma is bitch hun, belive he will get what he deserves. =] i tell you this because i've gone through this with my boyfriend -ex i had for 5 years

sped

April 16, 2010

Your only problem is that you spent too much time with this guy and kept him in your life. You sound like an OK person but he sounds like a douchebag. You need to set boundaries for yourself and your expectations of what your partner brings to a relationship. This guy crossed any reasonable expectation early on. You should have dumped him at that point -- but you kept hanging around and let him back in. That was the mistake. If a guy crosses the boundary of your expectations you need to make a decision. Either end the relationship or continue it. If you continue it, then don't go bitching about poor treatment from him in the future because you accepted that behavior and have to deal with it. If you end it then you have to end it 100% -- no 2nd chances, no looking back, no 2nd thoughts. It's OVER. You shouldn't beat yourself up over this. Nothing bad happened except you got your heart stomped on a bit. No permanent damage. No physical damage. You need to learn from this on how to approah relationships in the future. Clearly you were too young and immature to enter into a relationship. So was he. But you need to learn from that and not let it drag you down every day. What happened has happened. Just make sure you don't let it happen again.