Broken Hearted's Breakup Story in California

Broken Hearted

March 14, 2010 @ (California)

I was with my boyfriend for a year when one morning I wake up and check my e-mail to find his ex had emailed me. She lives in France now and we are here in the states. The e-mail stated that they had been exchanging e-mails for 6 months and that they were going to get together the next time she was here (which was the week I got the email). She also says that he still loves her and wants to be with her. I confronted him and he acted very confused by the whole situation. He still proclaims that he never spoke with her while we were together. Anyways, this led me to not trust him so I started lurking on his e-mail where I find that he has been replying to casual encounters on craigslist and even posted a No strings attached ad. I confronted him with this and he said it was because he got bored one night and was just messing with the people on craigslist. I tried for 4 months to get over everything that happened. My gut told me he was lying, but he is a great guy and I love him so much. This morning I woke up to find pictures of some ugly fat girl in his email and another response to a craigslist ad. I decided that I couldn't take it anymore so I got dressed and drove to his house. I sat outside debating whether or not to wake him up and break it off. Which I did. He cried and says he doesn't want to lose me. He still says that he didn't cheat on me and that he never talked to his ex, but I've never been the person to be so sad and depressed as I am now. I broke up with him today because I need to remember who I used to be before him. He was my first boyfriend and this is the exact reason why I stayed single for 20 years. He was an amazing boyfriend and I just don't understand why he did this to me or what I did to deserve this. I don't know where to go from here.

Comment on this breakup

sped

March 17, 2010

Mental cheating is where the girl convinces herself that they guy is doing something she doesn't like. It doesn't have to be specific, just "something". And it doesn't have to be correct, it's just a feeling that the girl has. It's a case of her not liking what she THINKS he thinks. It's a sign a true immaturity and a spoiled nature. The chick is from California so she was bron feeling entitled and "special" and assumes that everyone should treat her that way. If this guy has any brains, he will consider it over. Of course, I think he is less mature than the chick.

valley smoker

March 17, 2010

what's mental cheating?i'd love to hear both sides of all the stories on this site.

Broken hearted

March 17, 2010

Sorry I miss understood what this website was all about. I thought everyone was going to be supportive. You guys are judging my character when you don't even know me. The boy that I broke up with I have been with for 3 years. He wasn't just a guy that I have been with for 6 months to a year. I felt like he cheating on me mentally and he betrayed my trust. I do not need help and if you people seriously took it upon yourself to sit down and write about a person you don't even know, I think you're the ones that need help. I did NOT look through his email every day and analyze every person he talked to. I looked twice and that is how I found everything. Give me a break from all of you rash and bad judgments of character. Don't waste your time.

sped

March 17, 2010

This chick is just starting to see the real world and isn't handling it well. She's got her 1st boyfriend and she is trying to just smother this guy. She treats him as if he is a piece of meat that she owns. Checking up on his email, bitching about what he does and who he contacts, pitching a hissy fit when he does something she doesn't like, etc. The first thing she needs to learn is that people, including boyfriends, are individuals with their own lives and she does NOT get to tell them how to live. The 2nd thing she needs to learn is that guys love pussy -- and not just her pussy. Any guy she has will be banging her and a few other chicks at the same time. If she doesn't like that then she needs to buy a cat and give up dating. The real issue is her lack of maturity and her temper. She's a borderline crazy bitch at a very young age

chico rush

March 15, 2010

you need to go get some profesional help is where you should go from here.you got a catty e-mail from some chick,who lives an entire ocean and width of a continent away,and flipped out over it.did you evr actually prove that he spoke to her?you say he posted stuff on craigslist and he said it was just for fun to mess with people.did he actully do anything with them?you're little miss spy.did he corespond with them?did he send pictures of himself?did he meet up with them?fair play if you don't want to be with a guy anymore but why go out of your way to find reasons to do it?and besides you shouldn't be snooping through other people's email.it's an invasion of privacy and it's wrong.how would you like it if a guy read your email or journal when you talk about random guys that you fantasize about?