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Jennifer

December 31, 2019 @ (Temecula California)

I liked this guy a lot and he liked me back and we were pretty young but there was just this connection between us and he was almost perfect for me but the problem was my parents didn't know soon enough they found out and we had to break up, but a few months later my parents decided we could date again and we were both super excited! But as we got on he got more aggressive I donÂ´t mean to brag but I come from a wealthy family so I get a good amount of money and I told him about that because I was clueless and Didn't think it through and the aggression started, It wasn't Anything Physical it was Verbal he would always get mad at me when other people were not around and my parents had not clue any of this was going on,I was too afraid to tell them but the problems only got worse because I started to grow irritated and one day we were fighting and he smacked me across the head and thatÂ´s when it got worse. Whenever I was with him my heart would drop and I just felt empty and sad. i asked my parents about it and thatÂ´s when I got the truth. I was born with Broken Heart Syndrome and it can get worse due to traumatic Experiences my parents let me date this boy again because he made me happy and they thought it could help my problem. ThatÂ´s when I decided I had to end it before this would end up KILLING me so I ended it, I am now beginning to recover from this but I will NEVER be the same.

CDJ

June 02, 2016 @ (England)

Tags: #badbreakup #lessonslearned

We were together 18 months. In the final months she said she worried I wasnâ€™t earning enough and doubted our â€˜compatibilityâ€™ with contradictory reasons, yet would reject my suggestions to break-up (I always had to be the one to bring it up). When we eventually did it was hard, but I couldnâ€™t take the uncertainty.

Afterwards it felt like we hadnâ€™t broken up, talking as normal. She told me she still loved me and was upset. Her birthday was coming up and she was working nights that weekend, so I thought I would deliver her presents/belongings on one of the nights. But she wanted to see me, and said sheâ€™d been struggling after the break-up, so I agreed to come after Monday lunchtime following her final night shift.

When I arrived she came out her bedroom naked, claiming we hadnâ€™t confirmed I was coming round (she sent an odd text that morning asking what I was up to that day, to which I replied to confirm/remind, and tried to ring four times). She grabbed a dressing gown and opened her presents. I sensed awkwardness and then it clicked; there was a guy in her bed.

I felt sick and humiliated. She said he was a locum sheâ€™d met at work over the weekend, it hadnâ€™t meant anything, etc. I said I wanted answers/closure to move on (this upset her, yet Iâ€™d found her moving on!). She even blamed me for turning up. The next day she became remorseful and wanted to talk in person, but I wanted immediate answers â€“ it had been an unnecessary and horrible thing to do.

A week later she called me and I apologised for how Iâ€™d reacted, even though Iâ€™d suffered a trauma! She wouldnâ€™t discuss what happened, distressed at the slightest mention. Sheâ€™d flipped the situation and gone back to claiming I was in the wrong. At the end we agreed we would meet to exchange stuff. That was the last time we spoke; 8 weeks later she just ignored me and mailed my stuff without any words.

The lesson here is that there is no such thing as a good break-up. I thought I was having one, and then she had other ideas. So, when you break-up with someone, do just that â€“ cut contact and stay away. And speak to people (friends, parents, counsellor, etc.) â€“ they will stop you from making things worse.

Alina

January 27, 2016 @ (Italy)

Tags: Bad break up, trauma, hope, family, child

This goes out to all the people grieving over their break-up,

I wrote on here about a month ago, swearing that my relationship with my boyfriend was finally over. Crying over the fact that i was ready to get married to him, have his child and start a future. Swearing that no one could ever make the feel the way he had.

Well, long story short, i moved into his house, i had a beautiful daughter and am currently fighting for custody in order to return home. Suddenly the person I loved had become someone i dont know at all. This house has become a prison cell. And i live in constant fear that he is going to take away my most precious gift of all, my daughter. But time will pass, happiness nor sorrow lasts forever. I will win both legal and physical custody of my daughter and will finally live an independent life.

Take my story to reflect carefully on your own. Be careful what you wish for because one mans sorrow is another persons salvation.

Vandriver

November 23, 2015 @ (Australia)

Tags: bad break up

dated this girl for 7 months. she was the biz, told me every day for 5 months that she wanted to marry me but we both worked in high pressure jobs. i was under a lot of stress as mum had died, our neighbour killed himself and i was witness to a traumatic self harm attempt four days before gf's birthday and the planning for same went belly up. i ended up on stress leave for 30 day. gf informed me via email "don't want to be in a relationship atm!!!"

Maxwell

June 09, 2015 @ (Canada)

Tags: funny breakup?

So just wondering if anyone else has had a similar dating experience. I was casually dating a girl for about a month and a half, but we had been talking everyday for about two and a half months. We were taking things slow, and one day we were on our way to the park (were I planned to talk to her about how she felt things were going) when I got struck by car. I was projected onto my head and was brought to the hospital trauma unit due to the nature of my bloody head. I surprisingly came out of it in pretty good shape, except for a mild concussion that has been lingering for over a month now. She stayed with me that night and over the weekend our communication was intimate and she even mentioned about making me dinner as I was in recovery. Then bang, she 180s and decides she is not ready for a relationship thus ending our dating experience. So basically, I got hit by a car while walking with her and the next week she decides that she doesn't want to continue. Not going to lie, it messed me up a bit going through a traumatic experience like that, and then having the person who you thought could support you a little pull the chute.

Alphonso

December 03, 2014 @ (United Kingdom)

Tags: bad breakup bitch whore waste of space

I think that the worst thing for a woman is that the man that she considers to be the love of her life remembers her as another failed relationship which will be replaced and emotionally forgotten.

It's a duty for a man to sabotage a woman's life when she deserves it. At least she will not make the same mistake again. It's actually an act of charity to be horrible when breaking up with a useless retarded waste of space.

Put some sense into this empty skull; everything in there is just a pile of fairy tails and porn fantasies. Leave a trauma so that she changes her ways when you leave her and ignore her for good.

Today's women have no clue what being in a relationship means. The western culture has offered them the concept of freedom but they use it with very little intelligence.

There comes man's role which is: to correct the woman and to put her in her place; i.e a degree below.

S**** stupid bitch. You have wasted 3 months of my life. I gave you love you didn't deserve. I hope you suck dicks of fire in hell.

Diana

July 13, 2014 @ (where I belong)

Tags: bad breakup

Well, I'm with this guy since October last year. Our relationship was good. He was so caring and sweet to me. Like ohh he knew how to make me feel comfortable. I was really loved him. Till in February when he was sleeping beside me, I took his phone and there is a messages from other chick. He's such flirty with that girl. I never imagined he would cheat on me. Next day I told him about this and he admitted it and sorry to me. Ok, I was forgiving him. Our relationship was good again. And on April he's moved to another city. He promised to always call me and never ignore me. But, a liar is a liar. He never call me or text me. Everytime I calls/texts him he never reply. And then I went to twitter and I caught him had a conversation with different girl. I shocked and I was crying every night, I couldn't sleep cause I can't stop thinking about him. I was confused with this relationship. I talked with alot of people about this and they were giving me some advice and the last was always "break him up" . After I'm sure with this, I was breaking up with him by the phone cause there's no way to go to his current city and he was fine with it. And till now I'm still trying to move on from him, and yesterday he textd me and he want me to get back with him again. He told me her new girl cheated on him. And... oh my bad, I was evil laughs plus I think I'm fall in love with him again. So I was crying at that time, I'm sooooo confused. I talked about it to my best friend, and she said "he will hurt you again" . And until now I keep ignoring his text and never answer his call. But now I'm afraid to start a relationship again. Because of him I have a trauma. And now I think all of the boys are the same.

Varun

January 23, 2014 @ (India)

Tags: Selfish

Once which was the truth for us ,prooved to be just a dream and a requirement for the moment. Love was treated as a step of going up by her. I held strong for around 3 years but i could not take the disrespect of me and my life. Once a Icon in her life is now just a piece of shit. This was told to me by all my close ones. I was taken apart from my family, my friends. I just cant take it more. I am not a fake person, all i am is a guy who thinks this world needs more love and having said that i was in a relation with the person with the exact opposite. though. Today after a lot of mental trauma i end this relation from my end,for i know she will be fine now . I am not surprised that there is not any resentment from her today and she is fine for me to be not around. Last Statement" I was always unhappy with u for the time you and i have been together"

Brian E

January 11, 2014 @ (ND)

Tags: bad breakup, crazy woman, fake pregnancy

Well about 20 months ago I began dating a girl with whom I had a great relationship and love affair, for about a year. She was awesome, terrific to laze around and watch a movie with, terrific with my son (id say they were even good friends, I sometimes wonder if he misses her, he doesn't mention it).

About 8 months ago she got pregnant. She wound up miscarrying. After that she had some struggles and the relationship got to be not as good, she kept trying to change herself to look better. I kept telling her I always liked the way she looked. Finally she wound up in the hospital after going drinking with her friends to a bachelorette party and I had to split up with her. I just said "I'm sorry but I can't talk to you, I can't reason with you, I just left my son at his moms for 5 days sitting ina hospital to make sure you're alive and well, I can't handle it anymore" and we split.

She came over and hung out a few times, we stayed friends, she'd play words with friends with both of us everyday, all that. Then family circumstance changed a nd my son and I had to move away from the town we were in.

And thats when things went nuts. She told me she'd missed her period, I said ok. She'd gotten pregnant before, but miscarried, she sent a photo of some positive tests, so I didn't disbelieve her. I said we'll deal with this as it happens, but I'm already committed to moving 2 hours away, so for the time being thats it. While later she sent me a picture of an ultrasound with a caption like "take a look at our kids", we talked about it. A while later she sent another, a doctors report. Then she invited me to some ultrasounds, once in the middle of the week when she knew i couldn't make it as there was nobody to pick up my son, once 1 day after she knew my son and I were scheduled to fly to Cali to visit family for the holidays.

Then she started texting me stories about her amazing love life. How she was dating 2 dudes, how one was "rocking her world" so I got suspicious and just googled ultrasound pictures. I eventually found BOTH THE PIC OF THE POSITIVE TESTS AND THE ULTRASOUND PICS ON GOOGLE IMAGES.

I called her on it, she maintained she was pregnant, with twins no less. Eventually I had to call her sister, her sister said no she's not, she goes to the bar, she lives with our mom, she's just messing with you. So I talked to her about it and she responded with a pic of 4 ultrasound pics next to her ID. Except they were printed and cut with a scissors and ALSO found on the internet.

So I told her to stop it, I knew she was lieing. Then I started getting prank phone calls in the middle of the night, people with blocked numbers threatening to beat me up or "kick my @#%#", strange texts from out of state numbers. Finally someone showed up at my hotel room when I was visiting the old town, at about 9-10 am beating on the door and yelling my name. I figured it was related as I'd gotten numerous late night / early hour pranks the night before.

I wound up having to change my phone number, my email address, and get a restraining order. And she STILL, even though she has admitted to her mom and sister that she is not pregnant, and I've spoken to them about it, finds ways, through mutual friends, to get texts and emails to me about how pregnant she is.

I just hope it eventually ends. And let there be no doubt that truly "he!! hath no fury like a woman scorned" or, as it seems, no crazy like one either.

It has been the worst 4 months of my entire life, truly traumatic.

Mike

December 01, 2013 @ (Houston)

Tags: Cheating, whore, liar, pain, bitch, evil, shitty, traumatizing, slut, cheater, con artist,

I was with my ex for almost 4 years when things started to get bad. She was drinking a lot and we were fighting almost daily. One day we went to the Renaissance Festival in our town. She said she felt like the relationship was ending and I said that might be the case but we should discuss it at a later time and enjoy the rest of the day together. That night we went camping at the festival and saw Molly. After hanging out together all night we decided to go back to the car and sleep because it was so cold. On the way to the car she was walking behind me about 50 feet and I told her that I was going to go up to the car ahead of her and get the heater going. I got in the car and waited for a few minutes and she never showed up. I started texting her, asking her where she was and she said she was lost. I kept texting her for 40 minutes trying to explain to her how to get to the camp site. After that I started to get mad and I told her that I was going to leave if she didn't come to the car. She texted me back "I'm safe". I was furious and I started asking her what the fuck she was doing, but she stopped texting me. I waited in the car all night tripping and freaking out. She showed up at the car at 8am, completely drunk. Her hair was messed up and her make up was smeared. I accused her of fucking someone and she kept denying it. A few days later she got drunk again and got in a mean mood. She admitted that she met some random guy at a camp site and fucked him in his tent while I was waiting for her in the car. She also admitted that one night two years before she fucked my cousin while I was sleeping in the next room. I thought she was a faithful and loyal girl. I did not see that coming at all. She had cheated on me the entire time we were together.