Catalina

March 12, 2011 @ (california)

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my ex and i had a perfect communication and he was an awesome boyfriend.. but unfortunetly he never had time to hang out outside of school much and well...now my question is.."how do you tell yur ex yur pregnant if both of you guys are still virgins??"..i honestly dont think he wud believe me and think i cheated on him..and why wud i do that if i care about him and love him??it sounds imposible because this doesnt happen to many people..and i kno the baby is his because hes the only guy ive everdone anything with besides kiss..i dont know what to do..my ex and i are good friends at the moment..i know he still likes me because he told some of my friends..he just didnt have time fur anything..he was a busy dude:/..my friends asked him,"what would you do or think if yur girlfriend told you that she got prego by you??" and he said that he doesnt believe in a girl becoming pregnant without sex..i feel like if he were to tell me to get a DNA test..i would get it, mail it to him and pack my things and raise my baby on my own..somewhere far like mexico maybe..because he denied it the day he made me get a DNA test..and beacuse he thought that low of me


       


 

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Kami

May 15, 2015


How did you get pregnant if you didn't have sex? I don't understand the phenomenon... Did he put his sperm inside of a syringe and inject it into your vagina? If he did, surely he wouldn't need a DNA test as he knows that would have got you pregnant...


     


Mike

March 20, 2011


I think that you are VERY naive if you would "pack your things and raise my baby on your own" due to your ex asking, very reasonably, for a DNA test. Look at things this way: if you knew that the only way to get pregnant (a VERY life changing event) was through intercourse, but your gf got pregnant without it and told you that "I'm preggo, but we never had sex", wouldn't YOU want to double check with a doctor before committing to something that could be (for all you know) a lie? Think about this: people used to KNOW that the world was flat, and they also knew that Earth was the center of the known universe. After all, how *else* would the water stay on, and people keep from falling off of Earth? As you can see, however, the world in round(ish), and we are NOT the center of everything. These bits of knowledge were acquired through scientific progress. The connection here is that you ex bf has a gf saying "I know we didn't have sex, but I'm pregnant, and it's your baby. Don't ask me how. Now let's spend our lives together forever!" Obviously the incredulous ex bf wants to make sure that it IS his kid, because it's a major WTF FML situation. And then there's you... wanting to shut his shit down all because he wanted to put away doubts and stop suspicions before they begin so that HE can love you, as well as your kid, like no one else can. In short, you are a selfish, naive, young woman that threw away something great for nothing. WAY TO GO. Have a fun life. Try not to hit the "easy button" when you're depressed because you're raising this kid by yourself.


     


Chico Rush

March 12, 2011


Of course you can get pregnant without having actual sex.Even though i know that I'd still insist on a DNA test just to make sure you're not a baby pinner.Especialy in California 'cause once you start paying you're stuck for life after two years even if you can prove that you're not the father.Even if you can prove that the mother willfuly deceived you.I don't think that there's any jurisdiction that acctualy prosecutes paternity fraud.Sorry about the rant.Your ex has the ABSOLUTE RIGHT to demand a paternity test.