Lauren's Breakup Story in Maryland - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Lauren

August 22, 2012 @ (Maryland)

So it was a nine month relationship. We were friends for about a year before. We finally decided to hook up the week of homecoming. But it turned out to be something a lot more. He asked me out at the homecoming game. Since then we've been together and in love. I helped him through so much. His parents fight constantly, he was adopted, he has self worth issue but so do I. We helped each other out. We were happy together and we promised each other to stay forever. We thought we were going to get married. We thought we had so much time. We even lost our virginity to one another.
So he went to church camp for a week about a month ago. He came back wanting a break. No explanation, no answers, no nothing. He changed completely. He always used to say that he believed in God but not in religion. Now he's a legit conservative Catholic. He says "Sex is bad." He thinks he has to break up with me because of his religion. The experience at camp changed him. It's like my old guy is there but he's not. Like he's asleep and soon he's going to wake up and have no one. He thinks the world is a perfect place where only nice people exist because that's how it was at camp.
I don't know how to get through to him. But all he says now is 'idk'. Ten months and he's willing to throw it all away... I get the feeling he isn't telling me something. I'm so fed up with guys being assholes. He was different though.

Comment on this breakup

Krissy

September 16, 2012

Maybe he has followed the religous path, but that doesnt mean your relashionship has to end, and maybe he doesnt know this. You should try and understand him, tell him that there will be no more sex, if you love him enough to give that up.. see what he says, and try to understand things from his point of view... give him some time and space, maybe the religion thing is just a silly phase he's going to have... just take things slow and talk to him about it. good luck.

JohnL.

August 25, 2012

Ok I can relate to this. The church doesnt teach that sex is bad. Simply that it should only be shared with the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Granted i'm not catholic. Plus you sound a bit young. Try this and it may or may not work. Tell him sex isn't whats important and that you just want to be with him. Sex isn't love. Love must exist before sex in order for a relationship to last. could be that he didn't have the time to fully understand what love is and it scares him. Take your time and try to give him some space, the more u push the more he pushes u in the other way.