Vanillatwilight's Breakup Story in somewhere on earth

Vanillatwilight

May 14, 2012 @ (somewhere on earth)

So me and my first bf (now ex bf) had a long distance relationship that lasted over 2 months. We'd see each other once a week to play volleyball together and occasionally meet up for movie and mall dates. He was the sweetest guy ever and i'd give up sleep just to talk to him. He was also quite busy since he went to private school. I was devasted when we broke up but i agreed to it because i could feel that he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. After our breakup, i came upon a youtube video one day of him singing a love song dedicated to this other girl (the video was posted when we were dating). Later on, i found out that he had been cheating with me through our entire relationship with a girl that he met on a cruise and who lived half way around the world. I was furious and disappointed at him. I also found out that the reason he broke up with his other ex was because she found out he cheated on her (with the same girl he cheated on me with.) I kept that to myself for a while and then confronted him a few day ago. He simply said congrats on finding out, he did consider making a video for me at one point but singing to her was their thing and playing volleyball with me was our thing. It has been over 3 months since we broke up but he has hurt me so badly that im still having trouble recovering from it. I don't even know what to do with anymore. I can't talk to him anymore cuz i know that he won't tell me any truth and i dont want to talk to such jerks, but at the sametime a part deep down inside of me still have feelings for him. :S

Comment on this breakup

mike

May 22, 2012

I don't thing you should learn everything he has done! That will only open the part of your heart that has already started to heal. The best advise I can give is start being selfish. Be your own boyfriend. Then soon after doing that you will learn just what kind of boyfriend you want. And the best part of all of this is you will begin to heal and (stringthen) your heart!

A

May 15, 2012

I know how you feel. But you and I both know you deserve waaay better than that! So instead of focusing on the past, think about yourself and your future. Do things that cheer you up and build up your confidence. And most importantly, go ahead and start daydreaming about your next boyfriend and how he'll be waaay better than this other guy ever was. :p