Laura's Breakup Story in Missouri - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Laura

May 10, 2012 @ (Missouri)

I started dating this guy about a year and a half ago. We were absolute BEST friends through high school, and going into a relationship seemed like the most natural, easy thing to do.
We're both Christians and agreed to make God the center of our relationship. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, was like a movie moment. We danced together, laughed together, we even sat and watched the sunset together (yes, cheesy..I know.) I got used to him being by my side all of the time. I depended on him. He was there for me through the ups and downs, and we supported each other through every decision.
He's a football player, and I went to every game I could. We were always at the others' house and his family was like my second family. People referred to us as "Mark and Laura", not just as "mark" or "laura" individually.
People, including myself, always just assumed we'd last forever. I mean, great clean Christian relationship for a year and a half after being best friends throughout high school. What could go wrong?

Last week, out of the blue, he told me that we needed time apart. He explained that he still cared for me, but didn't want a relationship at the moment. I tried being strong in front of him, but went home and bawled. He has hardly spoken to me since then, and he's been talking to his ex (who I've always been jealous of) recently and I literally feel sick to my stomach. I can't eat, I can't sleep, and I just constantly ache. All it takes is hearing his name and I just want to curl up in a ball and cry. ....Advice, please?

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A

May 15, 2012

I know it's hard to let go of someone you still care for. It's especially hard when all you can think about is all of the ways you were great together, and how cute and sweet he was, etc etc etc. But the past no longer exists, and it never will again. What do you gain out of holding on to it? Heartache. So what I suggest you do is first acknowledge your feelings. Be honest with yourself and let it all out. Cry if you need to. Do NOT hold the emotion inside of yourself--let it out. Then turn your mind and your heart to YOURSELF. Do the things that you enjoy. Take up a new hobby, or get back into an old one. Get a new hairstyle. I know that sounds superficial, but let me tell you, it worked wonders for me. When you feel like you look good, then you start feeling good. Don't be afraid to do things that will build up your confidence. Find ways to compliment yourself, acknowledge all of the great things about yourself. Pamper yourself, love yourself. Give yourself unconditional love. Once you remember how awesome you are, start thinking about all the things you have to offer in a relationship, and start daydreaming about your future. Be grateful for the experience you shared with your ex, and look forward to the next experience. And of course, time. Time does wonders if you make good use of it.

Stephanie

May 14, 2012

Hey Laura... I know it sucks! But you have to see God's purpose in all of this. I am going through the SAME thing, only we were together for 3 years. He was the guy I was going to marry (want to think he still is) yet, I realized that my happiness has to come from God and not my boyfriend or the circumstances. Focus on honoring God even throughout this hard time. I know it feels like the end of the world, but just pray and focus on what He wants you to learn from all of this. Remember that "all things God works for the good of those who love him" (Romans 8:28). I wish I could tell you "don't worry, he will come back" just how I wish I KNEW my boyfriend is coming back. But just know that God has the ABSOLUTE best for you! You need to believe that! Good Luck!! :)