Kim

March 08, 2012 @ (London)

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So my worst breakup happened around a year ago. I was with a guy, David, who was really into religion and basically saw everything from a religious perspective. I am a Protestant but I don't take things to the extreme, unlike him.

2 years into the relationship I was bored and sick of him. Don't get me wrong, he's a good person, but his possessive nature would drive me up the wall. I could not stand him preaching about this and that.

Anyways so one day he started saying that I am cheating on him with many of the guys I know.. I mean seriously.... I really took offence at what he started saying about me. Then one day he started shouting and saying that I am cheating on him with his best guy mate. And I'm like no I'm not. I was debating leaving him (and had been for nearly under a year) when he spat at me. I broke up with him on the spot. I mean what sort of mutton spits at his girlfriend?

He cried and begged me not to leave him. He spent 5 months constantly stalking me and even threatened to kill himself. This was a very rough time for me but through the help of my friends and family I kept strong. I avoided all contact with him and blocked him from my phone. Things got so bad that we had to get a restraining order from the police.

I occasionally do see him and he gives me the shivers. Oh well :/

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Kim

March 16, 2012

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I know he didn't see her as a whore but I do and she's the type of girl who will really hurt you. I don't intend losing my virginity till I'm married because I want it to be something special and not I one off. I'm the only virgin in my group of mates and I don't really care because they have slept around and I haven't and I'm the one who's hurting the least and I'm only 22 so I'm quite young you know there's no rush. I have said some horrible things to my ex which I regret and I didn't want to hurt him but I couldn't be with him he was driving me insane and he has some issues and we had to go to the police because of the suicide threats and all. Its hard to let go and I know that John loves this woman but I would never ever want to be with a person like her. I wish you all the happiness in the world and I hope that you find a special someone

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Steve

March 16, 2012

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Except the young man john never saw her as a whore only a young girl who lost her way. He tried to believe in that girl and ended up being completely used. There were older posts that said a lot more about him but they took them down. One that made me feel sorry for him was that he confronted the girl he was with for accusing him of being a stalker with no proof. She kicked him out and when he left he said he would always love her. I'm just blown away by that line. I sure as hell wouldn't. You were and are wise not to give up your virginity because it probably means a lot to you and its something you want to save for that special someone. Just be careful who you give it to.

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Kim

March 16, 2012

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To be honest I had already read it and it reminded me so much about him because in his eyes I am that type of woman, only I am still a virgin, I am not a whore and obviously don't sleep around and I know for 1 that I did not use him

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Steve

March 15, 2012

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He is under browse then Popular.

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Steve

March 15, 2012

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Then its better that you got away from him. I just read a story from a young man named John L. You should read it and write him something. Might give you some answers.

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Kim

March 15, 2012

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And the worst part was, that I was with him for 2 years and he never told his parents about me, yet he would come to my house every freaken day.. Then everytime I would try to leave him he would tell me I'm going to introduce you to my parents.. yet the only time I met his parents he told them I was his 'friend'... We never had sex or anything but he told a friend 'the part I miss of Kim the most is her breasts.. like he ever touched them!

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Steve

March 15, 2012

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Yeah thats weird unless he was Amish or something lol. Plus you should be free to read whatever you want. Or watch whatever you want granted most everything is garbage on TV. Marriage is a scary topic for most people even myself. I mentioned it to my ex a couple times but mainly because I wanted her to think about it not busting out the wedding bands, and getting out the dresses. To me personally I only want to date someone that I would like to wake up to every morning and know this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Otherwise what the heck am I doing with this person lol. I have been single for two years and I saw my ex the other day in the grocery store. Can't wait to leave the area. I didnt even see her face but I knew who she was immediately by the slight pain in my chest. All we can do is move forward unfortunately. Just carry the scars and ask God to show you the way.

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Kim

March 15, 2012

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I'm sorry to hear that, he did screw up my life but I am finally moving on. Not a day passes that I don't think of him.. its really sad because he thinks that I don't care about him but I do, its just that he was what I could call a 'maniac'. Its really sad, how things ended because I would have liked to remain friends. I didn't leave him beforehand because I thought that things would get better. He would say things like using condoms is wrong and that when we get married he wouldnt let me read magazines apart from Church magazines.. its all too much. He kept on talking about marriage it would drive me insane and how we would have kids who wouldnt be allowed to watch tv but he would let them read the Bible.. There obviously was something wrong there!

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Steve

March 15, 2012

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I think you misunderstood what I was saying. What I was saying was that it was a good thing you left because no one deserves to be treated like that. The relationship has become toxic and hurts you more than anything. I would say instead of bored you were tired of his behavior. I did not judge you by the way your decisions are your own I am just lending some advice. You deserve to find someone you can trust and who will trust you. Its the only way a true relationship will work. Also I never said to base your relationship solely on religion although it is the best foundation I have found for most people. Also I was in a relationship with a girl for a while. She chested on me four times in secret by the end, made me lose friends, made me lose myself, and everything I stood for. I have been somewhat where you have. You are not alone.

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Kim

March 15, 2012

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Steve, of course I was bored of him.. he would constantly doubt me and accuse me of things which I had not done. His voice was like a tape recorder saying things like 'you dont love me. you are cheating on me. all my friends hate you.' You have no idea what I hard time I've been through and how many 'friends' I lost thanks to him. I do have a boyfriend now and I'm happy with him and no of course I don't want to hurt him but Steve you have to be in my situation to judge what I've been through, the relationship in itself was stressful. I just want to have a boyfriend who 1. I can trust as this was no the case with David, and who at least was what you can call normal. Of course I am religious to but then I am not a religious fanatic and neither do I base my relationship solely on religion!!

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