Lynette's Breakup Story in Los Angeles - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Lynette

May 14, 2011 @ (Los Angeles)

Tags: Liar

18 months of my life that I can't get back. Funny thing is that when we were together, everything seemed wonderful. He was loving, attentive, and sweet. It was the first time since my painful divorce that I let myself really trust and fall in love. What a mistake!

He told me that he was divorced. He said he was living in his friend's guest house- even took me there! Of course, he wasn't. They were all lies. You know where this is going.... Abruptly, his wife calls me. I guess that one day he called my office on their house phone and she got suspicious. I eventually found out that he bought a separate cell phone just to call me so that his wife wouldn't find out. Anyhow, his wife and I had an interesting conversation on the phone. She actually seemed to be a genuinely nice person- I feel sorry for her. I was also really upset that I unknowingly caused her so much pain- having also experienced a cheating spouse before.

Aparently, he had been lying to me all along, and had cheated on her before. He was still living with his wife. And lying to both of us, using me. When he finally did call me, it was to simply tell me (with a flat affect like he was ordering a pizza)that he was going back to his wife and he asked me not to call her (too late, she called me first) because otherwise, I would be the one responsible for breaking up their family if I spoke with her. Unbelievable! He tried to place the blame on me! And he was afraid that I would tell her what he had been up to. WOW.

Glad I found this out though, imagine if his wife had really left him/divorced him? Now I think that all I was to him was his backup plan in case she did leave. And he probably would have turned around and done the same thing to me later- cheated. Still really angry though. Angry that someone could be so cold hearted and just blatenly lie. Not sure I can trust again now.

Comment on this breakup

wong

June 14, 2011

Ugh, i'm so worried to get close to guys, i worry i'll be treated the same way. why is this world so bad?

faith

June 12, 2011

Hi Lynette, I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. My heart goes out to you. Take care

SLMVP

May 18, 2011

YOU WILL FIND A GOOD MAN WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. I HATE MAN WHO CHEATS. I WAS CHEATED ON 20 YEARS AGO AND IT STILL BOTHERS ME TODAY. I DID FIND A WONDERFUL MAN AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 17 YEARS. VERY HAPPY. YOU WILL FIND A MAN THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AGAIN.