Danielle's Breakup Story in Chicago - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Danielle

March 31, 2011 @ (Chicago)

Tags: breakup, first, relationship, heartbroken

My boyfriend and I were together for just over two years. It was the first serious relationship either of us had been in, and we were in love. He fought hard to win me over, and he made me feel more special than I have ever felt in my life. He was my world. I trusted him completely and never in my wildest dreams imagined that he could break my heart.

During the last few months of our relationship, I felt a subtle shift. It was nothing to raise any alarms, but I definitely noticed it. I realized that I was usually the one to initiate affection, or to plan an outing, or even to call. He was still kind and loving, but it felt as though his passion had faded.

I confronted him about it. I asked him if he was still in love with me. The moment I said it, I regretted it. He suddenly looked very confused, and the second he began talking I knew I had opened Pandora's Box. With a pained look in his eyes, he told me he wasn't sure anymore -- that our relationship had become "comfortable." He said he needed time to think.

After a week without contact, he he came over to my apartment. I felt optimistic; I was convinced that we would just end up having a serious talk addressing the inevitable loss of the puppy love stage in our relationship. I was wrong. He told me that he was no longer in love with me, that he no longer wanted to be my boyfriend, but he couldn't imagine losing me as a friend. In that moment I felt my world collapse. I pleaded with him to reconsider, I begged him to stay. Nothing I said had any effect, and he left my place in tears.

It's been six months since I've seen him, and my heart is still in pieces. Our parting was so sudden, I still feel like I'm in shock. After a few months of trying to remain his friend, I quit. The pain of being platonic was too great for me, and my pain was too great for him. Now I'm too scared to reach out to him again for fear of the pain that comes with knowing you've been replaced. All I want is to be back in his arms, but he's let me go and hasn't looked back.

Comment on this breakup

arianna

July 15, 2011

i think it was best you asked him because it wouldve sucked if he dragged you along in a relationship he didnt want and ended up cheating on you...

jennifer

April 07, 2011

I went through the exact same thing. We broke up that way after 7 months, ended up back together after a month, then nearly a year later we ended it for all the reasons you stated. All ties have been cut and its the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Feel your pain hun.

Danielle

April 05, 2011

I def know how you are feeling, My boyfriend and i were together for three and a half years, and two months ago he broke up with me out of the blue, he wants nothing to do with me now, and moved on to a different girl...We were eachothers first love and best friend, and so it hurts more then anythinggg.

John L.

April 04, 2011

I amsorry to hear that. Same thing happened to me. 8 months for me. I even forgave her for cheating on me 2 times. Then she just left, only for me to call her two eeks later. Oh i'm on a date. I looked 8 years for this girl of my dreams. Now imagine after picking that person off the floor. Then they say ur a stalker, that they never loved you, never had any feelings for you. Everything was just a transfer of fellings and emotions toward her ex. You are just a mistake (that one hurt the most) I never want to see or hear from you ever again. It has put me through hell.