Aliana's Breakup Story in India - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Aliana

March 16, 2011 @ (India)

Tags: Hm

I got together with my best friend. We had a good time, moved to a city of a different country together to live there for a year during my student exchange. We had a good time and we cared for each other a lot. Soon doubts crept in, I wondered whether I loved him enough, whether this was what I wanted from love in life. Only in the crisis that lead to our break up I learned that he's had similar doubts. The drama is that there was no drama. We broke up in perfect mutual understanding, in agreement over the issues that we didn't like and also sharing the opinion that starting new with somebody else would be the best option. I still believe this is right and I don't want to let things get messy by contacting him, I don't want him to come back out of sympathy and I don't want me to try and get him back just out of the fear of losing an extraordinary friend and perhaps the most supportive, accepting and understanding person I met in my life.
Now, it's only been two weeks and after an amazing conversation with one of my professors who tried to help me (and succeeded doing so in a way), I still doubt my choice and I still miss him and the loss of him is certainly the hardest thing I ever had to take.
Perhaps you guys think this is easier as it didn't get nasty, and perhaps you are right, but is there anything that is more bitter than two people who desperately want to be together and tried to make each other happy but whose love simply wasn't enough?
However, this story just seemed different from most I read here so I'll share it with you.

Comment on this breakup

Kaela

March 21, 2011

I just broke up with my bf of almost a year just a couple of days ago. it's just like how you described it. sometimes I wish he was an asshole because I feel like it would make it easier.. but I think in the long run, it's better this way. that way you don't end up bitter and angry and still have hope in men and relationships.

John L.

March 19, 2011

People go through ups and downs. To me if you were truely in love then you would not have left. However I think people get bored. What I would have tried was doing something diff. something to bring life back into the relationship. My breakup ended with the girl trying to destroy me so good job for not making it ugly. Much more of a mature decision. You want him to come back for love not sympathy or guilt. I would give him some time. Not too long however and then ask him to try it again. Only this time bring something new into it.