Shelliton's Breakup Story in Albuquerque - YouBrokeUpHow.com (uBUH)

Shelliton

January 27, 2011 @ (Albuquerque)

Tags: crazy, controlling, delusional

Years ago, my best friend began dating a girl that he worked with. It started off okay, but after about a month she told him a sob story and he let her move in with him. That started four years of psychological torture. He found a better job, got a house for her, expensive furniture and electronics for her. She dictated his life - he would have to lie and sneak around to have lunch with me, a best friend from school days, like it was something naughty. She was constantly telling him how much she hated him and how worthless she thought he was. She began attempting to stab him - the first time was because he brought her breakfast in bed and forgot the orange juice. She would never let him be in a room by himself, then complain that he never let her have the life she wanted. She told him to propose, but he could never bring himself to buy the $10,000 ring she had to have. She would with-hold sex for months at a time and he never once cheated on her. She kicked him out of the house he was paying for thirteen times in the four years they were together and during the last time, she got back together with her meth addicted ex and he started rediscovering his balls.

At that point, he and I reconnected by starting to work out together again (he used to have the most fantastic set of abs, but his ex was a little overweight and would accuse him of working out just to make her feel bad about her body). She started constantly calling and texting him (he was still paying for her phone bill and gave her three months after the break up to get another phone set up before he shut it off), alternatively wishing him happiness and berating and belittling him. Once the phone got shut off, the e-mails started - angry and demanding money from him. We grew closer in this time and now, a little over a year after their break up, we've decided to get married. I'm not sure how she found out, but she sent him a very angry e-mail (after many e-mails saying she was happy he was dating me and wishing us well) accusing him of cheating on her with me and basically telling him that he should have made himself available as her backup plan. And yet, he still can't justify blocking her e-mails (he refuses to even consider giving her his new phone number, though). He still has the patience of a saint, though we're still working on rebuilding his self-esteem.

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katt

February 15, 2011

Slayer, I'm not always a troll ;-)

troll slayer

February 14, 2011

huh, wow katt, this is like the only time i havent seen you trollin

katt

February 11, 2011

Ok!! Now it makes more sense!!! Wow thats a long time to being friends w/ benefits but at least you guys had your fun and decided as adults this is what you both want! Sux what he went through-you should've stepped in long ago!! lol Question, did it hurt you that he put up with all this mess and drama when he could've just left her and kept the benefits going with you??

Shelliton

February 09, 2011

We met when we were fourteen and ran with the same crowd. After high school we remained friends but added the benefits. So we were kinda like each other's relationship between relationships. We knew from about age 19 that if we ever dated, it would be a permanent thing. We just both had a lot of life to live until things just clicked when we started really hanging out again at age 25. So we both knew the love and affection was there :-)

katt

February 09, 2011

Did you secretly like him the whole time?? Well hopefully you can help him get his balls back & stop contacting the psycho! Change email addresses & stop avoid ppl she knows as well. Good luck!