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Krismas

February 28, 2010 @ (Asia Pacific)

I broke up with him just last week and it sucks. I can't say "officially" broke up because we didn't have the official talk. We have been dating (purely dating, no sleepovers etc) for nearly 10 months. Even though we've never discussed commitment, we've spent time with each others parents and traveled together, texted and talked to each other nearly everyday and meet at least once a week. Everything was progressing well. Last Monday, while we were out playing tennis, he told me he was going to spend the next weekend with some girl, to visit her hometown and check out the festivities there. I acted normal but became quiet after he told me that. He asked me later during dinner if I was upset, I said a bit but its ok. Later that night, he texted me goodnight and I replied with goodbye. I haven't heard from him since. I wonder if I will hear from him again. He was one of the kindest men I have ever met, and I felt safe with him, and I've never felt like that before. Guess at the time, I figured if after 10 months of dating he was going off like that with some girl, might as well just move on... :((

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krismas

March 02, 2010

GaRy, I know, Sped's got a thing for me ;-P Update: the guy texted me to play tennis again next week...after he got back from his trip. I didn't reply.. What a jerk...

GaRy

March 02, 2010

oh my I dont know whats more interesting.. The break up or the fact that sped is giving real advice!! lol jk

krismas

March 01, 2010

Sped, thanks for the input. No, he really was serious about spending the weekend at this girl's hometown. And sped, surely, if he really liked me, he'd asked me for commitment way before 10 months, and he wouldn't make that trip when I got upset. No commitment, no sex..

sped

March 01, 2010

I think that the guy was interested in something you couldn't provide him. Possibly sex, since it appears that you guys weren't boning. Definitely there was no hot spark between you. I really believe that there was no other girl and that he made that up to see if you would show some reaction or show any passion for the relationship. You showed nothing. You didn't get upset and told him that he could go off and spend the weekend with another chick. To him that may have meant you had no commitment to your relationship and no deep interest in him. Didn't care enough about him to show any concern that he was off with another girl. If it was a test, that was wrong of him. But nevertheless, you failed the test. I think you got too complacent and comfortable. You probably really liked him a great deal and he probably liked you just as strongly. He wanted more and you didn't come thru. After he left for the weekend, it doesn't appear that you made any attempt to contact him. So again, you are showing no interest in this guy. Right or wrong, he's decided that you are not interested in him. So there is no other girl but he has left you because he thinks you have no feelings for him. If you DO have feelings for him and miss the relationship, not just the companionship, then you need to contact him right away. If all you really wanted was companionship and no relationship, then go buy a cat and leave him alone.