You Broke Up How?

Nate

May 02, 2024 @ (United States)

Tags: B

27M have been in a relationship with 27F for a year and half now. Earlier this year I was going through a rough time, had to put my cat down and was also needing to find a job and was really struggling with my mental health. I feel as if I put too much pressure on my girlfriend to be overly supportive but at the same time I never really communicated what I needed from her. While I wish that I told her that I needed space to figure these things out, I instead told her I wasn't feeling the relationship anymore.

With our lack of communication in the relationship, we never really ended the relationship and instead went a month and a half with just texting each other and met up once or twice. I did eventually find a job, and decided to work on myself a bit more. Part of this was meeting up with my girlfriend and spilling my feelings about how i'd like to continue to work on this relationship. We agreed to continue dating, but after just one time hanging out (1 week) she told me that she wanted a break with no contact.

I respected that and we went on a break for about a 3 weeks before I eventually reached out asking where she was at with it all. She called me up, and I explained to her how I've been working on myself through therapy and hobbies, but am still wanting to work on the relationship because I knew I could be a better partner. She told me that when we hung out last she couldn't get the thought that I didn't care about her out of her head. She said that she was happy to see my working on myself but it seemed like a punch in the face that I was doing it now, and if we were to stay and work on things then these thoughts of the past me would still bother her.

I kind of assumed this was going to be where her head was at, but she mentioned that she could feel differently about it all in a couple weeks or a month. She just didn't want to drag me along, which is hard because i'm optimistic things could work. We ended the call, but never really came to a conclusion as to what we were doing. So I called her back and asked, what are we right now. Is this still a break or are we broken up? She responded with broken up. This confuses me because I asked her earlier why she hadn't broken up with me yet, and her response was that she loved me and cared for me.

Why is it that I had to almost force her to give me an answer on this? I'm not sure if I should be waiting for her to change her mind or if I should use this phone call as closure to the end of the relationship.

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Carspotter416

July 09, 2026 @ (Toronto)

Tags: Cars

Mercedes S63 AMG Cabriolet parked in the pedestrian walkway at Kasa Moto bar.

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Eddie Brock

March 24, 2026 @ (San Quentin Prison)

Tags: Cousin love, Cousin, Family dating, I dated my cousin, oops, genepool Gem

Do you know what always cheers me up in the morning, Eddie?
Sausages and brains. I say “ee-ther” And I say “eye-ther” I say “nee-ther” , Ee-ther, eye-ther Nee-ther, ny-ther, Let’s call The whole thing off ,Ow! Ow, ow. Ouch. Ow.
Po-tah-toes , I like to-may-toes And I like to-mah-to , Po-tay-toes, po-tah-toes To-may-toes, to-mah-toes , Let’s call The whole thing off , Cheer up, old pal, And, oh, if we call We call the whole thing off , then we must part
Are you pen pals with an ant?
Whoa, listen to this.
-Eddie Brock.

Henrietta

March 22, 2016 @ (China)

Tags: painfullbreakupandstilllonging

We were together for months. He loved me deeply. For me? I love him so much and three months later after he broke up with me I am still in so much agony. It was a long distance relationship. I was going to come after a year since I am still in college. I was just asking for one year. Not ten years, not twenty three, not even three. Just one year. But somehow he kinda lost his grip. Until now, I really do not know why we just all of a sudden fell apart. And I could not understand why we cannot fight for us. He said he has his own life now and he can no longer run this marathon with me. Was I depending too much on him for emotional support because of depression from my family problems? Was I too needy or too clingy? But I promise I never complained when he was busy. I just do not know why or how he fell out of love for me. Every single day, I ask why. I wonder if he ever opens his Skype and reads my messages begging him for another chance. Now, I am about to graduate but I have no direction since the man at the end of the tunnel, well he is no longer there to keep his promise. I am just totally lost and miserable. But I am not mad. I do not resent him either. I am grateful for everything. I just want to be his girl and I would give my all. (Sorry for any typos.)

Weird Guy

November 14, 2020 @ (India)

Tags: bad breakup, confused, sad

{part2 } just a smile

Matt

October 22, 2021 @ (Southeast Asia)

Tags: Crazy ex gf .

I met my ex gf while in college. She was good looking and funny and respectful . She was also tall and in shape. I was deeply in love. She was studying in another college near by. We meet every week end and every Wednesday. For the first 6 months, she was cool. Then she became manipulative and disrespectful. I called her out and she promptly broke up with me. I did not try to win her back and after one brief phone conversation, I stopped all contact . I was in love with her and the first 6 weeks of the grieving process was brutal.after that , my mood lifted considerably . I studied and worked out in the gym. About 3 months post break up, mutual friends started dropping hints and constantly talking about my ex to me. Apparently, she was open to reconciliation and I was supposed to win her back. Lol. By that time, I had not fully healed but I had already decided that my ex gf is history. I told them to stop And hung out with another group. About 18 months post break up, my ex gf called me on the phone . I cut the conversation short . She then came over to my place to talk . I told her you looks will fade but your personality will at best remain shitty . I said she was a bad long term investment. She got mad !! She started spreading crazy rumours . I started dating And about 2 years post break up my ex gf again tried to get a mutual friend to get me to talk to her. I said hell no.

Lynn

December 10, 2009 @ (Empire State)

Tags: NY

Woke up to a Facebook message: "sorry, can't do it anymore"

John L.

July 25, 2010 @ (Orlando)

Tags: Why does this happpen

I have posted my story and it was the first time I ever had something like this happen.

My question after reading other peoples stories is this.

While everyone says move on thats all you can do. Others try to take revenge but my question is why?

Why do people of today treat people with such little respect. Sex is seen as nothing more than a social event when that is never what it was designed for. It was meant for marriage.

Look at all the media around you (sex sells) look at we as a people and what we are becoming. People are so selfish that they forget that the one thing you do is put the other individual above yourselves.

We are all here because the person we thought we could trust, believe in, give our lives to, want to be with for the rest of our lives, etc. Left or broke us. How many of us have done this to others. Yes many times it's better that we split (abusive or harmful) but at the same time its become normal to break people's hearts and souls and in some cases we still don't know why the other did it.

I am challenging all of you since you have gone through a breakup to stop and think. Don't just jump into bed. Look at the person in the face and ask is this the woman or man I can spend my life with. Waking up to their face every morning and never getting tired of it.

Don't let your emotions run your life. Stop the cycle that the world has said is normal. Stop having sex just because it feels good. Or you are lonely. Grow up and set an example for others to follow.

David

November 24, 2009 @ (Ontario, Canada)

Tags: funny breakup, recent breakup, bad breakup

A couple of weeks ago I went in to write my Psychology midterm in one of the school's larger lecture halls. Everything started off fine: papers were handed out, I had all of my identification, I had actually put a couple of hours of studying into this test and I even brought my own pencil; what a glorious day. Sitting in the front row of this lecture hall I hear snickering starting from the back and then gradually making its way down towards me. Near the front of the class, I'm one of the last people to get the attendance sheet that everyone has to sign to prove they were actually there to write the test. At the top of the list I see my girlfriend's name and signature and, beside it, my name, with a simple message: "I can't do this anymore. It's over. Sorry." The best part? SHE DOESN'T EVEN GO TO THIS SCHOOL.

Secret

June 09, 2020 @ (India)

Tags: #bad breakup #cheaterboyfrind

I had the worst day of my life today,I got to know that my boyfriend has been cheating on me. I have been in a relationship of past 2.5 years he was very sweet to me ,the was a bit possessive he didn't like when I spoke to guys and later on he even asked me to stop speaking to my friends at first I fought but later I agreed to him,a year passed I said my parents about him and I expected him to do the same but the said he had a elder sister he can say about me at home till she gets married, then for higher studies I moved to other city and our fights because worst that before but later of he started understanding and the time passed, due to the lockdown I had to come back home,he was very sweet I had planned my whole life then I got a call from a unknown number it was a girl she said me that it was the matter of her and my life ,I didn't understand,I asked her to be clear so she asked me do I know zain I said yes he is my boyfriend she started crying she said he that she was in relationship with him past 2 year I was shocked I couldn't believe it then she showed me the proof she had tried to commit suicide for him ,I was completely broke right now I didn't know what to do the we both decided to meet ,the next day I met her she was 17 year old and she was his cousin we decided to speak to him directly so we went to his house his mom and sister open the door we said everything to her then I got to know that his name was not even zain he was not doing engineering ,he had one more girlfriend , I was blank my whole life was a lie ,I didn't know what to do at that time he entered the house he was in a shock seeing both of us together, I asked him he lied on my face ,I felt like burning him alive my blood was boiling I couldn't stand his sight ,I felt like my life is a joke I walked out of his house saying nothing ,I had no words to say I was broke from inside