You Broke Up How?

Nan El

January 01, 2013 @ (New York)

Tags: Cheating with co-worker, 3 years of lies

Over three years ago I started dating a man that was selfish, a cheater, a liar and just plain self centered. He admitted this to me. I was hesitant at first but it didn't take long for him to have me believing that he wanted to be a better man for me. We worked together for years and once he transferred to another department, that's when we started dating. He asked me to marry him after just a few months and treated me as if I was the only woman on earth. We spent constant time together and he would look me in the eyes everyday and tell me how much he loves and adores me and wants to be with only me the rest of his life. I introduced him to my kids and he moved in with us shortly thereafter. He lived with us for one year and during that time he started drifting, working more...going out longer with his friends. He started telling me he was having a hard time living with kids (who I only have half the week) and he only saw them maybe twice a week. He told me he couldn't live with us anymore and it just wasn't "him". The day after he moved out he was begging for me back and this went on and off for a year and a half. We broke up last December of 2011 because he couldn't handle things...all while still claiming to love me and not want anyone else. For about 6 weeks we went back and forth about our love for each other then he said he needs me and promises to be the man II need. I took him back and we were together up until October of this past year 2012....still back and forth with his feelings...but kept promising to marry me and move back in. I broke up with him in October when he told me he couldn't take vacation to Disney World with me and the kids which was planned and paid for and was happening in 3 weeks!! He continued to text and call me crying that he needs me, etc... But his gram was sick and he didn't want to go anywhere. He made me feel guilty for taking vacation without him! When I returned right after Thanksgiving, I started finding out some things from people and emails, etc.. He started sleeping with one of my employees last year when we broke up...she works very closely with me. They broke up when he got back together with me...but then he contacted her to "get together" in April, May and November. We went to a concert together in June and they acted like they didn't even know each other then went to get beer for 20 minutes together! At that point I had no reason to think anything of it. Once I confronted both of them, they denied even knowing each other and called me crazy. She ultimately confessed but they are both still claiming it wasn't all year long. She has had boyfriends this whole time as well. I am now in a situation where they both still work for the company and she still reports to me. They act as if nothing is wrong and life is good....they show no remorse. By the way, she is 12 years younger than him! I have so much pain and it is in my face everyday. How do I get over it?

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Catherine

October 21, 2019 @ (Doha,Qatar)

Tags: funny break up and post break up

At the moment i am in 11th grade. 4 years ago ie, when i was in 7th grade, i got into a relationship with my classmate.Well the funny part is that we were enemies in 6th grade (lmao).So when we got into 7th grade he told me that he liked me but i wasnt interested,my friends forced me to get into a relationship and eventually we became a couple and also the talk of the school.Then within few months we started to like each other and our relationship progressed.We did the lame stuffs that couples would do at that age .But when i look back into that year rn i am laughing my ass off.Anyways when it was the end of 7th grade he told me that he is going to leave the country cuz his father lost his job and then he disappeared.
well after four years my friends were super curious to know where and what he is doing rn.And somehow they found out his address and texted him.Well he told my friend that he still likes me(lmao) and that he wanted to talk to me and i told her to tell him to FUCK OFF.
Anyways that was my first so called love and prolly the last.

Moonpie

November 22, 2016 @ (Czech republic)

Tags: badbreakup, psycho breakup

Helped him with depression, been with him for 3 years. He dumped me, because "we have nothing in common", especially I don't want to take drugs with him. FML.

Louis

October 13, 2009 @ (Norcal)

Tags: left

So me and my ex had met at college, and continued our relationship after. She even moved out to the westcoast to live with me, however 2 months later she says she doesn't feel right being there and what's to go back to her hometown in the midwest. She goes, she's there for a week and tells me it's over. So we stop talking, and she starts caling me again 3 months later, says she wants me to come see her and still loves me, I still have feelings for her so I go. I'm there for 2 days, and she tells me she doesn't love me anymore, and I should leave. So I say I'll get a hotel, cuz my flight doesn't leave for 4 more days, she says no cuz she's worried we'd have sex again(wtf). So I change my flight to the next day for $100 and ask her to take me to the airport, which is 2 hrs away, she says no but she'll take me to the greyhound that night and it goes to the city the airport is in, mind you my flight leaves at 12pm and I'll get to the city at 11pm the night before.. So that's what happened, me in the middle of nowhere, in a city I don't know, heartbroken.

Malc N

May 24, 2015 @ (Wisconsin )

Tags: Real bad breakup

I looked on her phone and found texts on her phone to other guys which had ended months ago, but I decided to bring it up so that I could figure out what was wrong and fix it because Ilove her. She cried and told me how sorry she was and how i was her everything and clung to me and cried on my shoulder. This is the second time we've dated. And her birthday is exactly one month I front of mine. I went on a trip for a week and she said she wanted to take a break because of things we were dealing with and I agreed but we talked about it and decided to just talk less. That night which was also our ten month anniversary she fucked a black guy named diamond she met that night. She told me the day I got back when we went to hang out at the park were we always hang. And she told me she wanted to break up and stuff and then about how she fucked him after he put his arm around her and that's all. And although I was paranoid and looked on her phone I deep down would have never expected it to happen. This is also 4 days before my birthday. We had "breakup sex" but my mind was so tricked into infatuation that I was still so attracted to but the reality is hitting me now. She still says she loves me and wants to be friends and I told her I wouldn't tell anyone to not ruin her reputation but it's a big secret to keep inside.

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August 21, 2024 @ (UK)

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Cameron

October 13, 2009 @ (So. Cal.)

Tags: brother

I had known this girl for a while and always had a crush on her, but she ignored me for about a year until we finally started hooking up. We were actually starting to move towards a relationship when she decided one night to have a threesome with some other skank and my brother. Then, 10 minutes after she had the threesome she came into my room telling me she loved me and trying to have sex with me. I declined. Then to top it all off I wanted to get revenge by having sex with her friend, who is actually quite ugly but it was just the principle. And I just found out last night that her ugly friend is pregnant, keeping the baby, and I'm the father.

Tyrion

September 23, 2017 @ (Sky)

Tags: Hard breakup

Im 23, I met my ex at a running club when she was 16 and I asked her out, it all worked perfectly and we fell in love quickly. Our relationship was PERFECT, we both loved eachother and had a great time everytime we were together. We were made for eachother, and I really mean it, im not saying that because everyone says it. It was all really good.

For the record, we both new she was going abroad for her college studies, and we were willing to have a long distance relationship.

Sometimes she used to tell me that she was the only one contributing to the relationship, saying that only she wanted to see me and that I was indiferent when we dont meet. The truth is that it might be true, I was busy with college and in my free time I also liked to play video games, but we still saw eachother A LOT. I told her it was not true, every time I could I would go see her and that I love her with all my heart.

Time passed, and it was all still extremely good, but after 1 year and 8 months, she was 18 and done with school, while I am still finishing my last college year. We spent my summer vacations together, all the time, and when they were over, things changed, she had all that FREE TIME while I was extremely busy, that is when things fell appart really. I could not see her for 2 weekends straight, due to my overwhelming homework and also playing some video games; she basically transformed, and when I asked her what was happening, she said that she was getting used to not see me. I imediatelly went to see her and talk, but she was another girl, indiferent, not caring anymore. I told her that I will change and I will literaly sleep less so I can se her more. She said ok, but she was already diferent, nothing I did actually changed her mind. It was really messed up, so we sat down and talked, and she said that she had to change, she was suffering because she put a lot of effort into us and she left herself behind. This was true, she gave me all these little creative presents all the time, and I did not. She told me that the only way she could feel good is by caring less; I told her I was already putting more time into her, but she said that it was not the same, and that she thinks that the relationship is ending; nevetheless, we agreed to try to make it better. I really put an effort into everything, bringing her flowers, spending weekdays with her, and more, but after 2 weeks of this, she told me we need to talk, and broke up with me, saying we will be better off alone, she said she needed this time for herself before she went off the country. But she made her discontent clear, she told me that part of the breakup is due to her always giving me those little details, and that I never cared to give her the same, I did gave her some, but with time, I stopped.

The thing is that we broke up, and I am dying, feeling guilty as I gave her for granted and I lost her. She looks fine, I was crying really bad and she just shed a few tears. She said that maybe in the future we will meet, and she made it clear that she dreams of being my wife and having my kids, that im the perfect guy, but she wants to be alone.

I am confused and dont know what to do. I am shocked, I still think its not reall, I cant believe she broke up with me, SHE LOVED ME so much, and I did to. It all just happened in a second. Help me please.

Emily

September 21, 2009 @ (So Cal)

Tags: life

I met Adam online. When we finally met in person a few months later, I fell in love with him. We dated for nine months. He was even my first. I thought things were going quite well, when he announced, out of the blue, that he was moving back to his hometown. I was sad, but I didn’t think we needed to break up because the town was only two hours away. When I said so, he confessed that he was moving home to get back with his ex. Then I found their wedding announcement online. The wedding date had already passed. He’d been married a month before he broke up with me!

Elli

January 23, 2016 @ (Lost in this world)

Tags: Hurtful

Today I decided I was giving up on him. Trying too hard hurts too much. Specially knowing and feeling that he wasn't trying at all. I love him. I'll always will. But I just can't do it on my own :'(
I tried explaining in a text. He didn't care to answer. I felt him gone long ago. I just wasn't ready and still am not