You Broke Up How?

Shayla

October 12, 2015 @ (Fredericksburg Va)

Tags: "Let's be friends"break up

I really thought that he was the one. After 2 failed attempts at marriage and a failed long term relationship of 5yrs and countless miserable dates... He walked into my life and was what I thought I needed. The lies came slowly despite my inner thoughts of knowing the truth that he was indeed married. He assured me he wasn't and we continued what seemed to be a solid connection. We laughed, we shared jokes, we made love.... The quickies and the long passionate kind. Then he dropped the bomb on me that he had 4 kids and was unhappily married. He allowed me to make the decision to keep seeing him telling me that he was soon to get a divorce and said he had been looking at places to live and gave me a date of when he had planned to move out. A plan that seemed like it had been thought of for sometime. I believed him and continued to see him against my beliefs. We continued to get to know each other on a personal level. He acted like he didn't care about anything in his world except me (and his kids of course). I just knew he was going to divorce his wife. Not for me but for the simple fact that he too wanted to be happy and just wasn't in his marriage which happened to be dead before I came along. He traveled often taking me with him but definitely calling me religiously on the trips where he couldn't. Then one day it all changed. The day I said the "L" word. We had only been dating for 8m and I only knew for 2 that he was married. The L word scared him... It scared me but it was how I felt, so enamoured by him I couldn't help it. After that moment the phone calls became lesser and lesser. The good morning and good night text messages slowed down. After weeks of frustration I confronted him. It was then that he told me that he didn't feel the same way as I had felt and that he didn't know if he ever would or could. It stabbed me in the heart b/c I sacrificed so much of me, my morals, my beliefs to be with him. I stopped dating other people and was exclusive only to him. I was happy living in the moment but often times thought about a future with him. He decided that maybe we should cool off and it would be best to stop it now before I got hurt anymore than I already had been. He said he liked me a lot like a lot (his words) and wanted to still be friends. In that moment of anger I wanted it all and if I couldn't with him or have him love me after 8m of daring and sacrificing then we should stop talking all together. I reached out to him a week later. We cleared the air and realized some things were said out of anger,fear and a lot of alcohol but the truth is they were still said. We still talk some but just as "friends" conversation initiated by me mostly because although i know I need to let him go it's too hard to.

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Jenna

November 05, 2010 @ (Ohio)

Tags: boarding school

My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me. He claimed it was because I was leaving for Boarding school, and nothing else went through my mind so I bought it for a while. Until recently, away at school, I learned near the last few months of our relationship he was telling this girl that we had broken up. Throughout this time frame, he began to hook up and have sex with her. After figuring this out I gave him a phone call. He begged me to forgive him and told me he loved me. Yeah, that's right. Fuck you, Josh.

Josh

October 24, 2020 @ (Ozamiz City)

Tags: heartbreak, sad breakup

It's funny, how two people could meet online.
When I first met her on facebook, she was very pretty.
So I started liking a lot of her facebook posts and it return she also liked mine.
It was only on the first day we met on facebook, I asked her where she lived and it was actually really close to my house.
We lived on the same city.
I asked what she was doing, and she said "School." and her school was only a few distance from my house so I asked if we could meet up.
We went out for ice cream.
The say after, she told me she only had half a day of school so she asked me if she could hang-out in my house.
I said sure.
In that afternoon we watched a movie in my house and started taking a LOT of selfies together.
And before she went home, I asked her if I could kiss her than she sat next to me and gave me a kiss on the lips.
I never really thought of anything could be so sweet touching my lips, it was cherry flavored.
And a week after that, I was finally about to ask her to be mine I got everything ready, the movie tickets, red roses but she didn't show up.
She only texted me saying she already had a boyfriend from the start even though she told me they already broke-up.
Even until now, we're still friends on facebook lol.

Tea

September 20, 2025 @ (India)

Tags: just breakup

I was with my ex for 4 months, but I loved him so much that in the end, I didn't know what to do. I was so dependent on him that I never imagined my life without him. But ya, at last he was my first bf and the last one (I don't want to be in a relationship anymore.)

I loved him because I felt we were the same kind of soul. He gave me hope that love was still real. He teased me with funny, but then he did apologize in a way no one else ever had. He shared his life with me, so I opened mine to you. Every time his smiled or looked at me, I felt butterflies. He was the person I truly loved.

But I’m letting him go, because he is not the same anymore. He has changed. He stopped sharing the way you used to. He didn’t even ask how I was when I had a fever. He didn’t make time for me. I kept putting in the effort, always texting first, while you stayed online but didn’t reach out. I need attention, care, love — to be seen, at least by the one I love. He didn’t give me that. He always had excuses. And in the end, He didn’t understand me.

He would always say, 'I love you more.' But well, if he did, he wouldn't have ignored me at the time i mostly needed him. He would have stopped me, but he didn't. Why? I thought I was too bad for him until I realized I was the one making him better by my presence. He never gave me priority.
But at last I will still wish him a great future. And god please, give that idiot some brain, so that he could decide his priority.

Hallee

February 06, 2012 @ (California)

Tags: HELPPPPP!!!!

Me and this guy were talking since last summer. When we started talking he seemed very interested in me and i thought it was going to work out. A couple months into the "relationship" he started acting distant and I would ask him if everything was ok and he would always say yes. Shortly after he told me a girl was the least of his worries and to "live my Life" a week later he came back and everything started being fine again. Then he started acting like he was more into me again. I spent the night at his house and he got me a toothbrush to keep at his house. I thought things were going to be ok then two days before we broke up i saw him and we did hook up but everything was normal. Then later that night he asked me if i posted anything on facebook or twitter about him and i told him yes. He then asked me if i mentioned his name in the status i said "no but if I did would it have been a problem?" he said yes because its unnecessary, I asked if he was trying to hide the fact that he is involved with me and of course he said no and i told him I wont have any issues as long as he was hiding the fact that he was talking to me then we were fine, he said ok and everything seemed fine, a couple days later he texted me and told me that he was not the guy for me but if he ever seen me around we could still talk and stuff and if he had any parties i could come and i asked him if he was doing what he was doing because he was seeing someone else or because he lost feelings he says neither but i dont know what to believe then he closed out the conversation with bye for now. Im so confused I need some advice!!

Jennifer

January 31, 2013 @ (United States)

Tags: (gay, boyfriend, bestfriend, mutual)

My name is Jennifer and I am 18 years old. About a year a go, my best friend of 2 years finally asked me out and I couldn't have been happier. We spend an amazing 9 months together until something happened in November. We were having a bit of a hiccup in our relationship. Just a little lack of communication but nothing big. I told him we needed to talk things out, so we went out for coffee the morning of the 27th.
That's when he dumped me hard, saying that he just didn't like me anymore, and had no feelings for me. It was completely out of the blue. I was distraught for about 2 weeks until he finally told me he was gay. I felt horrible, that I might have done something to cause it, or I made him turn gay. But he assured me that it was always a thought in his head but never wanted to tell me to spare my feelings.
I'll admit- things were awkward for a week or two but then we immediately returned to being best friends, and we were inseparable again. I also started hanging out with our other mutual friend, he was funny and smart and we really got along well.
Well about 2 weeks ago our mutual friend decided to tell me he was gay. I began to panic, thinking that something was up, but my ex was very consoling to say that everything was fine and there was nothing between the two of them- they were just friends and got along well because they had enough in common.
Easy enough right? Well wrong. The mutual friend let the cat out of the bag that he and my ex-boyfriend started dating a month after he dumped me.
So I was not only dumped for someone else, it was for our mutual best friend... who was a guy.
And now I'm not speaking to either of them because I feel betrayed that they would go behind my back like that. I told them everything and they kept that huge secret from me for about 3 months.
Anyone know what to do?
-Jennifer

Zack

November 30, 2010 @ (home)

Tags: write, spell

Does anyone know how to spell on this website? I can't understand half of you people.

Radiohead

October 05, 2009 @ (my bed)

Tags: sadness, breakup

let's see....oh ya, saturday night, i walked in on my girlfriend screwing another guy....we broke up...

my girlfriend before her told me over lunch one day that she had a date that night, so we had to hurry up and eat...

ya, i'm a winner!

Steven G

July 11, 2014 @ (Yonkers, NY)

Tags: love, loss, bad break up, cheating, relationship

I have yet to go wrong on a “gut feeling” when it comes to a disaster with a significant other. I somehow can sense the bomb going off but never in time to defuse it. The most recent example was by a lovely lady I was seeing for several months. She and I did not land on solid ground due to the conditions of our start. We shared many laughs, cries, and plenty about each other during that time. I was hesitant at first about her feelings at first, not knowing if they were true or just brought up by the circumstances of her previous relationship. We shared a wild, strong sexual appetite during the first half of our relationship. Facing personal dilemmas and financial difficulties; she pursued a second job in which she could balance herself with. She quickly got an offer to work a gentlemen’s club as a coat checker. I saw the potential for disaster, keeping in mind her personality, state of mind, and lack of experience with the world. I feared that I might lose her in the process to some money throwing pig. Yet I needed to keep my personal fears in check and support who I regarded as my babe with anything she set her mind to. If this one thing could break us, than all my suspicions would be true; if they don’t than we could move forward, take the leap into going public with our relationship.

Several weeks later we began to drift apart, we would ignore mutual calls and text. We did not see each other for days at a time. I began to worry about us, and so I began to call her more often, asking how she was and brought up ideas on trips we could take. It had little to no affect, as her eyes and perhaps even her heart were set on someone else whom she met at the gentlemen’s club. One evening we got into an argument; and just like that, she asked me never to speak to her again; without any hesitation on my part, I hung up. The next day I told her we needed to talk; it was important that we clear the air. No response ever came that day, or the next day, or the day after. I tried once more and she quickly delivers the blow “I need time” which we all know to be “break-up mode”. I tried and tried again to see her so we could talk, all while sensing the inevitable blow that was soon to come. I would go to her apartment late at night, and she and her truck wouldn’t be there. I knew that I had lost her at this point; or maybe just 99%. I took a chance and went to her one last time; even after she told me not to. I gave her everything that she ever wanted, with a promise to be there always. She wasn’t giving in, she could not see being with me being better than the guy that she met recently. I knew that my words were barely chipping away at her wall. She was cold all throughout this and yet at the end she hugged me and showed me signs of remorse or sympathy. Before she walked back in I asked her, if in this last moment, we could turn things around and try to work this out with a clean slate. Her lips said no, but in her eyes, I saw a glimmer of yes. Despite what I felt, she gave me the closure I had asked her for. I wished her the best, and reminded her that I would always have her in my heart. Got in my car, and I had the most difficult drive of my life.

Ryan

December 11, 2009 @ (West Haven)

Tags: west haven

I went over to pick up my girlfriend before we went out for the night. I get there and she was still in the shower. I sat at the table and was checking fb on my phone, just killin time and her phone buzzed. I dont read her messages, but i just happened to look over and saw the message, "are we on for *place's name* @ 7, i miss you baby". I want to just throw the phone at her in the shower, but i waited. i wanted to have some fun with this. I ended the night and we both went home, she had no idea. Well i went a little early and when they showed up, I walked up behind them. I got around and just said, hi. you should have seen the look on her face. she couldn't even talk. the dude was like, hey there (acting all cool and shit). I introduced my self to him. "Hey , i'm ryan... i'm her Ex as of this moment right now." I turned and walked away, all i could here is WTF. HAHA