Steffi

February 06, 2010 @ (Indonesia)

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R and I met in college. He was two years younger than me. At first I thought he was a little too immature for my taste, but I decided to give him a try.
We dated for the past six months. He knew I was possessive and jealous, and he SAID he understood. He knew I was insecure. He SAID he understood. He never once complained. He never once told me anything about what he didn't like about me. I've always told him to open up to me, to tell me anything that was bothering him. But everytime I tried to open the lines of communication, he either joked about it or said everything's fine.
I was very happy with him. He truly loved me, and he taught he how to love. I was a little afraid of love, but he took my hand and together we took that leap of faith. I loved him. I loved him with all my heart.
A few weeks ago, things started to go downhill. WAY downhill. We started fighting a lot. And he didn't have the patience that he used to have with me anymore. We had this huge fight, and ever since then things were never the same again. After that fight, everytime I looked at him, I saw the emptiness in his eyes. He started distancing himself from me. When we went on dates, there were more awkward silences. I tried to pretend like nothing happened, but how long can I continue pretending?
Finally, I told him to make a decision. Either make an effort, or call it quits. He decided to take the easy way out. He dumped me. He said he didn't have any feelings for me anymore, and that he wasn't happy with me anymore.
I begged him to take me back. I begged him to give me more time. He refused.
How could anyone who LOVED me as much as he did suddenly lose all feelings for me in a mere matter of weeks? When I told my friends about the breakup, nobody believed it. Everybody said, 'That's impossible! He's so in love with you!'
But I guess his love was ephemeral. If he truly loved me, wouldn't he have tried to save the relationship?
In the beginning, when I was having doubts with the relationship, he always tried to convince me that love will conquer all. I guess that was all BS.

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gary

February 21, 2010

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A.I- The web site is called "YouBrokeUpHow" not "plzHaveACry"- this site is mainly for entertainment purposes- if your after support from fellow bloggers im sorry to tell you this is not the best site for it!!! In short deal with it!! And yes I make judgement on what information is posted.. If you have the time to post how you broke up to the world- then at least make sure all the info is in the story.. Most of these stories make me laugh.. most of them are all fucking kids who are to wrapped up in them self to give a fuck about what's going on around them.. divorce/ left with kids/ no home/ lost job- these are serious issues arising form a split... not this crap!! Lets keep it in perspective people

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pagoda pete

February 20, 2010

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i thought my comment was honest and based on the facts related by the poster. i don't think it was especialy mean.a little blunt maybe but it wasn't intended to be mean.

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A.I.

February 19, 2010

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First, I am sorry that you are enduring pain from losing your best friend and lover. Second, I am sorry you have to endure the pain of reading all the previous shitty comments that have been posted in regards to your breakup. If everyone I knew reacted with so much judgment when so little info was distributed, I would most certainly suicide, for such a world would be intolerable. What scum! I didn't even know there were so many bad people on this planet... But please take heart, because the people that have commented are not representative of the majority, or so I pray. There are still a lot of people out there who care about others and avoid hitting them over the head with "word clubs" when they are suffering. NO I AM NOT SUGGESTING SUICIDE! I just do not understand the shallow callousness of the evil men and women who posted all these terrible comments.

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gary

February 11, 2010

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lol... Agree with "reason".. Why the fuck would you ask him if you were not ready for the outcome?? Sounds to me like your immature.. Besides how old are you guys 16? 17?? lol... relax life's just starting, if your gonna be anal now imaging when you get older!!

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Reason

February 10, 2010

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Now who's too immature for who! Jeez woman, grow up

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Ang

February 08, 2010

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"If he truly loved me, wouldn't he have tried to save the relationship?" If someone is too impossible to handle anyone would walk away. Seems like you were too much for him. And most of the time yes...if you truly love someone you work it out. I don't think he loved you as much as you think he did. Seems like you were a hell of a lot of drama, he put up with it in the beginning and told you that he understood because it's what you wanted to hear...after a while it wasn't worth it anymore. You have problems. I suggest you work on them because I don't know anyone that would put up with someone who flat out admitted they were possessive, jealous and insecure (extremely unattractive qualities in anyone)...why don't you try to change those things instead of taking the easy way out yourself and expecting someone to accept these impossible flaws in you.

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sped

February 07, 2010

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I think he finally got tired of you and all your drama. He made a conscious decision over time to distance himself from you. You gave no details about what you did during that time. But I suspect you did nothing and continued to live the "me, me, me" life. He doesn't want type of person and he is clearly telling you that. You have 2 problems; 1) your personality and 2) your inability to admit culpability and your continuance of just blaming him. He probably met another girl who was not so possessive and controlling and he decided that he much prefers that type of girl. So drop the drama, stop blaming him, and figure out what you have to do to yourself to repair your toxic attitude

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sped

February 07, 2010

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I think he finally got tired of you and all your drama. He made a conscious decision over time to distance himself from you. You gave no details about what you did during that time. But I suspect you did nothing and continued to live the "me, me, me" life. He doesn't want type of person and he is clearly telling you that. You have 2 problems; 1) your personality and 2) your inability to admit culpability and your continuance of just blaming him. He probably met another girl who was not so possessive and controlling and he decided that he much prefers that type of girl. So drop the drama, stop blaming him, and figure out what you have to do to yourself to repair your toxic attitude

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pagoda pete

February 07, 2010

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just because he broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't love you.you say you're jealous,posesive and insecure.along with those you're probably suspicious as well.you say you're working on being more trusting and open,fair enough,but how many times did an unanswered call form you result in a a major blowout?how many times was there a huge blowout when he didn't text you back within a minute?how many fights were because there was the posibility that he wasn't where he was supposed to be,but was there anyway?that gets really old after a while.but then again maybe he's a dick.there are men AND women who like to prey on the insecure and just screw them over.

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