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Steffi

February 06, 2010 @ (Indonesia)

Tags: dumped

R and I met in college. He was two years younger than me. At first I thought he was a little too immature for my taste, but I decided to give him a try.
We dated for the past six months. He knew I was possessive and jealous, and he SAID he understood. He knew I was insecure. He SAID he understood. He never once complained. He never once told me anything about what he didn't like about me. I've always told him to open up to me, to tell me anything that was bothering him. But everytime I tried to open the lines of communication, he either joked about it or said everything's fine.
I was very happy with him. He truly loved me, and he taught he how to love. I was a little afraid of love, but he took my hand and together we took that leap of faith. I loved him. I loved him with all my heart.
A few weeks ago, things started to go downhill. WAY downhill. We started fighting a lot. And he didn't have the patience that he used to have with me anymore. We had this huge fight, and ever since then things were never the same again. After that fight, everytime I looked at him, I saw the emptiness in his eyes. He started distancing himself from me. When we went on dates, there were more awkward silences. I tried to pretend like nothing happened, but how long can I continue pretending?
Finally, I told him to make a decision. Either make an effort, or call it quits. He decided to take the easy way out. He dumped me. He said he didn't have any feelings for me anymore, and that he wasn't happy with me anymore.
I begged him to take me back. I begged him to give me more time. He refused.
How could anyone who LOVED me as much as he did suddenly lose all feelings for me in a mere matter of weeks? When I told my friends about the breakup, nobody believed it. Everybody said, 'That's impossible! He's so in love with you!'
But I guess his love was ephemeral. If he truly loved me, wouldn't he have tried to save the relationship?
In the beginning, when I was having doubts with the relationship, he always tried to convince me that love will conquer all. I guess that was all BS.

Knight

February 01, 2010 @ (youngstown)

Tags: Secrets , Games, Lies

I was with her for what feels like almost 2 years. We had our moments you know good and bad just like everybody. To her though I was this horrible person, but I didn't keep secrets from her and always told her how I was feeling. She was the complete opposite we broke up 4 times and got back together. The last time was on the third time we broke up I met another woman she was younger and we had a lot in common. She wasn't interested in me well that's what she told me. After awhile we stopped talking. Well me and my ex got together yet again and I was happy really but while me and this friend was talking I was gonna do something for her birthday and it was also around Christmas to. So she gave me something to help build her this present. I broke the thing she gave me to use and I felt like I owed her. I had forgotten about it but I had it programed it in my phone for that day I got paid. So I figured I would get her a card and put 10 dollars in it and say I was sorry and explained myself in the card. Well I didn't tell my ex and after awhile I got afraid of her finding out some other way. So I told her what I did and why I decided to tell her to. She didn't like any of it and she said some nasty things and we broke up for the very last time. She was my first and I loved her and some part of me still does but I don't think we will ever make it work and it sucks.

Spirit

January 22, 2010 @ (California)

Tags: cali

It's been close to a week now since i've talked to him. We had a huge fight and now he won't pick up my called or even respond to a text. the fight was really over something quiet stupid. He wanted to go meet up with his ex girlfriend for lunch. He claims that they're still friends and talk every so often. I'm not really friends with any of my exs, so i guess its hard for me to get a grasp on this. I didn't make a huge deal about it, but i did do the while, im not going to talk until you ask me what is wrong 100 times. That whole situation never leads to anything good. I know he went to lunch, with her. So instead of it just probably being a lunch date. He prob did meet up with her again later on. Eh. Terrible way to break up. After reading other posts on here, whats the deal with people not even responding after a breakup. You at least owe it to the other person to tell them its over. Breakups suck.

Evangeline

January 07, 2010 @ (Colorado)

Tags: dummy, drunk, cheater

When I was a Junior in college, I thought like couldn't get better! I was studying to be a volcanologist in Colorado, I worked part time as a tour guide in the fossils department in the local museum and volunteered at the public library. I was so happy. Then I met HIM. I was salting the side walks of the library in the middle of winter when a man wearing all black walked up to the library doors. All of sudden, he slipped on a thin, sheet of ice, falling flat on his bottom. I hurried over to help him up and I swear, the moment I looked into his eyes, I fell hard. Now I'm not the one to believe in love at first sight, but this man was an exception. He was at the library to meet his girlfriend. Yup, a bit of a dissapointment... But to my surprise, they broke up that day in the library. Since then, he would visit the library whenever I was there and we became close friends. So like fell into love and we were almost inseperable. We dated for about two years. We went through everything together. He was the lead singer in a band and I fulfilled my dream of being able to work with volcanoes. Yeah, I left some to go to different countries, but we were head over heels in love. Then one day, I came back from a trip and caught him in front of MY apartment making out with some redhead. I was FURIOUS! He tried talking to me and telling what all I'VE done wrong. He even said that I DON'T CRY. I said "Oh yeah? Well, boo fucking hoo, jerk." And pushed him out the door.

Carl

January 07, 2010 @ (Delhi)

Tags: Family, control, dominating family

I was in love with some girl, when I met a girl who became my friend (very good friends). I broke up with my love just to offer her a chance to be with some one who was better for her than me. She would ignore her but he would wait. I thought of moving out so he could get his place which, he did. My love hated me for leaving but I could live with the thought that atleast she'll be happy all her life without me.

I was coming out of that love and discovered my friend had developed feelings for me. For the first thought I had her by my side in my low time so I accepted her but her sister and I had an ego clash. Her sister always ruled my friend (now my GF) and I opposed it. This took her sister be against me and I certainly could not accept her sister. I took a promise from my GF to not let her sister get involved in our life and in simple words leave her for me. She agreed but kept the contacts with her sister, this reason brought so many fights between us but nothing changed. After marriage till date, many fights and many chances to break up, she still wants to sail in 2 boats.

No breaking contacts at the cost of my happy married life. I realised some times you as a husband is expected to accept all you get but you are unable to....Can't be a doormat and can't keep fighting everyday when the reason is her family. I think of moving out but get blamed. Along the way the fights have made me hear things that haunt me now and I see my feelings for her are not the same anymore.

I regret to have given my LOVE in somebody's hand and sacrificed. 2nd time I was taken for granted. Now I am all broken and just dragging myself with her as we have a child as well.

Can't live with her and can't leave her. Living with her has a cost to pay and leaving her has a cost for my child to pay.

Sometimes life gives you a fruit that looks sweet but its bitter when you bite. I am responsible for my own mistakes and will have to learn to live with the memories of my Fisrt and only love. What is more ironic than this?

Thomas

January 06, 2010 @ (Virginia)

Tags: Baseball

I had been dating a girl during law school. She lived about two hours away and we often spent the weekends together, with me usually driving up to see her. It was 1996 and the Yankees were playing in their first World Series in 15 years. I talked to her during the week about what we would do that weekend. I said that I didn't care, but that Game 6 was scheduled for Saturday night, and, whatever we did, I was going to watch it. She said fine, and we decided that I would go up to her place for the weekend.

Later in the week, she calls and says her parents will be in town for the weekend as well. No problem, I like her folks, but I repeat that I am up for anything so long as I get to watch the Yankees on Saturday night. (The Yankees had lost the first two at home, but now were coming back and making a series of it.) Saturday afternoon, my girlfriend says, "My parents want to take us to dinner." I said, no, let's eat here, the Yankees are playing, as I had told her before. (At this point, the Yankees are now up 3-2 and could clinch that night) She throws a tantrum! I interrupt her and say, "You have two choices, we can work out something where I watch the game, or we can break up and I can watch the game." Tantrum escalates; I leave; Yankees win Game 6 and World Series; I never return hysterical phone messages; I graduate from law school move to Manhattan meet a beautiful woman who loves going to Yankee games; I marry beautiful Yankee fan; so far, me and beautiful Yankee fan live happily ever after. Brings tears of joy just thinking about it.

Angelina

January 05, 2010 @ (OC)

Tags: guys, matt, emt, hospitals, loser, new orleans, fighting, crying

I met this guy on yahoo personals. I really thought I hit jackpot since most guys aren't that chatty, but he was. We finally met and instantly liked each other. He would text me every morning saying "good morning" and every night saying "good night." I was seriously on cloud 9. He works in a hospital so we only saw each other once a week. 6 months in we decided to take a trip to New Orleans together. We had been fighting a lot about stupid shit because we are both strong, opinionated people. I gave up a lot just to make him happy. It got to the point where I didn't care about my happiness anymore. It only mattered what he thought and what he wanted because it was easier that way. But I would slip and give my opinion sometimes and that's when we would fight, he would make fun of me for the dumbest things and put me down constantly if he didn't agree with my opinion. While we were in New Orleans he wanted to party every night, and sleep all day. I was super upset, I'm on vacation in an amazing City and you just wanna sleep all day because you wanna party all night?? I did a lot of exploring alone, which made me sad. Every time I made a decision to do something he always found something wrong with it and put me down. I cried every day. One night I begged him if we could stay home and relax. Our sex life was seriously lacking, but every time I was in the mood he wasn't...I wanted to stay in because I wanted to have a hot steamy night together. He wanted to go out. After telling me he was only going down to the hotel bar for an hour I called him 2 hours later, he said he was still there, 3 hours later he wasn't responding to my texts. 4 hours later he told me he was in the bar still, it was 2am! I went downstairs to the hotel bar and found out it had been closed since 11pm!When I finally got a hold of him and found him drunk outside he said he met some guys at the bar and went out with them. The next day I saw a couple texts in his phone to 2 girls that he was texting the night before. Saying that he wished they were there, and if they were there he wouldn't be "lonely in New Orleans."

I called him out and he laughed, saying they were just friends. I didn't really believe him but I let it go, we had 3 days left of our vacation. After coming home and a couple more weeks of me being miserable I decided we needed to talk, but he never had the time. He can't text me back, but he can text other girls? WTF?

He ended up coming over the day after Thanksgiving and breaking up with me. Stating that he cared about me sooooooooo much but just couldn't have a GF right now.

I wasted 6 months of my life with someone who wasn't all that into me and made me cry every day, and in the end, cheated on me and then HE broke up with ME. Lesson learned....my happiness should matter more then his.

Michele

December 29, 2009 @ (PA)

Tags: counseling, eharmony, wedding

I had been in a relationship with my fiance for 3.5 years when he decided to move to TX after losing his job. He returned a couple months later but basically I had already emotionally detached from him leaving and him not talking to me while he was away. We went to couples counseling while I went on eharmony. I told a mutual about a couple dates I had went on (her husband was a close friend of my ex). A few months after I had forgotten about the eharmony stint my friend's husband tells my ex what had happened (right around the time the therapy was starting to work). One day after therapy he takes me to a park (we never did anything romantic) to have 'the talk' with me. He asked me if I had something to tell him...and I literally didnn't remember going on eharmony at this point..it was so long ago. We talk for a couple hours...more than he ever communicated before. He didn't break up with me, but he wanted to take some time. I texted him a week later, and a week after that, and a week after that - the last time asking if he wanted the ring back. And then I discontinued our relationship on facebook. I talked to him later and he didn't even notice, and he "never got" my texts...he was planning to talk to me to tell me his decision... 3 months after I broke up with him...at our mutual friends wedding (above).

Amanda

December 29, 2009 @ (West Chester)

Tags: west chester

Me and the bf were staying in for the night, going to take it easy and watch a movie. He left his laptop on when he went to the bathroom. I heard this weird little bleep noise. I wasn't sure what it even was then i saw this little red balloon bouncing. He got a facebook chat from a girl named Liz. Well, i hate to even admit that i did this but, i read the instant message. She started off with hey babe. I didn't think much of that at this point. I really wanted to respond, but i just waited. few minutes go by and then liz sent another message. "So, when will she be going back home?" She was referring to me and, home was to me going to my parents house for the weekend. I was so angry that i typed back, friday morning. She replied, "Ok, see ya saturday night... miss u <3". I just the message up for him when he got out. I had all different way to break up with him in my head, but i just stood up, gave him a kiss on the cheek, and said "I hope she's worth it." I walked out, got in my car and balled my eyes out. We'd been dating a little over a year, and i really was into him. I guess it's back to square one now, yuck. Just for the record, i still haven't responded to his texts or calls. It is wrong if i never respond to him again?

Jeff

December 21, 2009 @ (Pennsylvania)

Tags: question

Okay, so here's the story. I just started dating this girl. She lives in Ohio, i'm in Pennsylvania. Well we were talking on web cam tonight and suddenly another guys voice comes on and says "can you hear me" she said yes directly after. I asked who that was and the cam coincidentally shut off at that point. She said it wasn't another guy when I asked her about it. I'm not sure if i'm just not trusting because of the shit I just came out of recently or if I should believe her. What do you guys think?