Dislike Chandra

November 05, 2012 @ (Duluth, MN)

Tags: Break up story

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When you told me you had found someone, I was worried. I thought there wasn’t possibly a way you cheated on me because I knew you. I trusted you. You weren’t that person. You said you hadn’t started dating her yet and that you were “just friends” but that you’d spent the night at her apartment on her couch a few times, that you’d gone out for drinks, etc. I digested this news. You had found someone else. I begged, I cried, I starved myself for several weeks – because I couldn’t understand how you, someone who I thought to be a good person, could have cheated on me.

I read her Facebook updates and it appeared that you had been dating since April, going on little vacation trips together, meeting her family, etc., all the while you were still dating me. You used my car to visit her, to bring her to work, and to take trips out in the country with her. When I was extremely ill, you claimed you were at a cabin with your parents and elderly grandmother, so I would have to take an ambulance. Turns out you were with her in the country, with my car.

You didn’t even come clean with me, I had asked for honesty. Please just tell me how long you’d been dating, what had gone on behind my back, etc. I felt made a fool of and humiliated. I was embarrassed that I defended you when you were “at a friends house” (turns out you were spending the night with her), or when you were hours late coming home from work, I figured you stopped to hang out with a friend – turns out I was completely over-trusting.

When I found out the truths splattered all over her Facebook, knowing that she had been married and her ex-husband had cheated on her and caused the end of the marriage less than a year before you two started dating, I was angry. How can another woman agree to date a man and put another lady in the same position she herself was in? She knew how this kind of betrayal hurt.

There was a time after the cheating when you made me feel like the cheating was entirely my fault and that if I tried to change some things about my behaviors and my income situation, you’d still date me. You claimed you wanted to be friends. You cried like a baby several times. You insisted that you didn’t hate me.

I moved out. We broke up. Things were spiraling out of control – and there you were being cruel to me any chance you got. I ran into you and your new “fiancé” (you got engaged after four months of dating, all of which were done when you were cheating on me, really), and instead of showing some respect for me being in the same vicinity as you two – you made out the entire night for hours on end in front of my friends and me! Talk about disrespectful.

You couldn’t understand what caused me to hate you. You couldn’t understand what caused me to hate her? You wanted me to play nicely and be kind. I’ve moved on with my life, I’ve met someone I can trust and depend on. We bonded over the horrible things you did to me, how low you were as a person, and we laugh at you. I’m glad we’re able to be together – but I’m still angry at you for NOT apologizing for the kinds of cruel things you did to me.

I’d be ashamed for your mother and father that they raised such a horrific human. You lied to your parents while you were cheating, you didn’t even invite them to your wedding – because you’ve changed. You’ve become the most evil person I’ve ever known, and it’s sad – because you use to be a good person.

I’d like to say I wish you health and happiness, but I wish almost every ill the world can throw at you. Every impossible situation where you’ll find pain, I wish that for you. I hope one day karma throws you several things at one time and you can feel what it feels like to not have a choice in a situation, to be made a fool of, and to hurt.

I know in my heart, you will cheat on her. Once she doesn’t pay enough attention to you. Once she gets too busy working and being a mother, she’ll forget to give you the insane amount of attention you require and you’ll do horrible things to her like you’ve done to me. The only difference is, she’ll deserve it.

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telling

November 08, 2015

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You told the truth so anyone who is hating on you needs to realiZe you wrote this a long time ago and back then this was your truth. Your ex and his New chick deserve each other . they can cry all they want and post under fake names here like bitchez hahaha fuckkk themmmm

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Barney

June 24, 2014

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Um for the hateful posts on this thread perhaps you can see that this was published like 2 years ago and you sound like a jerk. People come to THIS SITE to tell their break up stories, not to tell about how wonderful everything is now - usually. It's a break up site, duh. Also, you sound like a twat.

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buthia

May 30, 2014

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i understand because that chik is a home wrecker buy so sorry

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reconcerned

November 18, 2013

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hey concerned this was written a year ago

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Bill

November 18, 2013

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their worthless anyhoo lol fuq them be glad to be rid of him and she can have him. evebtually it may be the same way.

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concerned

November 05, 2013

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Well, beyond this touching confession, I hate that you're STILL dwelling on this shit. Don't you know that this obsession is making your friends and family think less of you? We get it, he cheated. BUT it's been 3 years since you broke up and you're a grown woman, with an almost grown son AND a husband to concern yourself with. So sick of you bringing up BOTH their names, every chance you get. Be happy with your life and leave them alone, in their misery.

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Jericho

December 16, 2012

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I'm sorry to hear that. Some people really do not understand others' emotions. Keep us posted on how you are doing, how you got through with it all. Keep on loving.

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SLMVP

November 09, 2012

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SO VERY SORRY. YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT PERSON AND MOVE ON. THE SAME THING HAPPEN TO ME. WE HAD DATED FOR 5 YEARS. I GAVE UP EVERYTHING FOR HIM. I WORKED 3 JOBS TO PUT HIM THROUGH COLLEGE. 2 WEEK BEFORE HE GRADUATED WITH HIS MASTER HE BROKE UP WITH ME. HE WAS CHEATING ON ME, BUT I WAS TOO BUSY TO NOTICE. HE GOT MARRIED TO HER AFTER 6 MONTHS. 2 WEEK AFTER HE BROKE UP WITH ME I NEVER SAW HIM AGAIN. HE TOOK MY CAR, AND ALL BY PROPERTY. I FOUND HIM ON FB 2 YEARS AGO. I WROTE TO HIM. HE NEVER SAID HE WAS SORRY. THEN HE DELETED HIS FB PAGE. ALL I WANTED FOR HIM WAS TO TELL ME HOW SORRY HE WAS. I HAVE BEEN HAPPILY MARRIED FOR 17 YEARS. ONE DAY IT WILL COME BACK AT HIM.

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