Ansi Jose

July 22, 2010 @ (Trivandrum)

Tags: Escape from Hell


I was in a relationship for the last two years. People will wonder how i managed to stay with someone stupid for such a long time. The person whom i loved used to call me names all the time and those words were so uncultured that i initially beg him to stop saying them. he won't and finally in an effort to get myself out of that pain, i used to bang my head on the wall and then he will scream " die you wretched bitch!" Once i took a whole strip of pills in an attempt to kill myself but that was a failure. He never used to give me any freedom. All the twenty-four hours of my life was for him. I can't watch a movie that i like, i can't talk to my mother or my brother, and i can't even go out with my friends. And the most important thing is that i can't even look at other boys. And the funny part is that he used to have a lot of girlfriends who used to visit his home and with whom he used to spend days together. Everything was forbidden just for me. And he won't let me do a job. Twice i got decent jobs but he will call me names all the way to my work place and he wanted me to take off on all the days that he liked. I had to leave both those jobs because of him. But it was okay if he is capable of getting a good income. that he was not! He never used to go for any jobs and he won't attend interviews saying that they will be tough! And to make things worse he has a brother who is handicapped and he wants me to look after him and his old father sitting at home. He never wanted me to be independent. At that point, i realized what he wants is just a servant, not a wife. And many times i tried to end that relationship but he will convince me to continue it and then again will start torturing me. Yesterday was the day when i took the final decision. I found out that i never can spoil my whole life for the sake of a stupid and incompetent person like this. So i finally said that "No". And of course he has threatened me that he is going to publish all the photos we had together everywhere and my mother and i are going to fall on his feet. And i also suspect myself to be pregnant. But come what may, I'm going to be firm on this decision and I am not going to spoil the rest of my life because of him.


       


 

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kyla

April 19, 2012


honestly be careful my sister was like dat and when she left him he came back a week later and he murdered her in front of her son who was only 4 at the time


     


sped

August 18, 2010


Ansi Jose: You need to get away from this guy right away and never go back. Tell him that if he publishes any photos without your permission you will sue his ass -- and that can be done. I'd also recommend getting a restraining order to keep him away from you. And you need to pick yourself back up and build some self respect. The guys is a turd, so don't let anything he said or did make you feel bad about yourself. He's the one with the problem, not you. So you move on, feel good about yourself, and never look back at him. And if you are pregnant -- seriously consider an abortion. Adoption is OK but giving birth is painful and has some risk. You need to put your life together and don't need a baby at this time


     


John L.

July 24, 2010


YOu need to get the heck away from that guy but be very careful. He sounds unstable. Hire a private investigator. Or just go in and take the hard drive out of his computer. Better yet just take his computer, camera, etc. He is messed up in the head and your brain and heart are telling you that. Don't let him threaten you like that. Be assertive and strong ask God for strength and wisdom and he will help you I promise.


     


ann

July 22, 2010


It takes a lot of strength to get out of an abusive relationship. Stay strong!